small vent

colleenm18

Ok so our wedding colors are royal blue with orange accents and I really wanted my BM to wear orange shoes.  Since this is a little bit of an annoying request I was planning on purchasing the shoes for everyone.  So I found a pair online that are $25 and they have everyone's size in stock (I have 8 girls) so i ordered a pair to make sure i liked them. 

Anyway the shoes came in yesterday and I love them, perfect color and everything.  So today I take them to show my sister (MOH) and she is like yeah i dont like them they are not summery enough (they are very plain orange closed toe heals)  And I said well I liked them and figured by me buying everyone's i was making it easier.  Her response was yeah well i want open toe strappy heals.. well good luck finding that in orange!

I was just annoyed.  She told me to just keep them and she will wear what i want but now i dont even want to i just want to return them and tell her to find her own shoes. 

Ok sorry if this was hard to follow.  LIke i said I was just annoyed.  I know it's not a huge deal but I feel like she tried to do the something with the bridesmaid dresses and now this.  It just frustrates me. 

BeachLover2885

I totally understand your frustration. However, if you are buying them then I wouldnt worry about what she thinks. Also, sisters never hold back their opinions! Im sure your BMs will be happy to wear them especially since you're purchasing the shoes. And I think orange closed toe shoes sound cuter than orange scrappy heels! It's your wedding and your vision. Your sister will get her chance one day! HTH!

mekiakoo

Ugh, sorry about that, but I hope all of your BMs like it! She's your sister so I'd not worry about that.

ginadog

Well I'm kind of finicky with my heeled shoes, so I'd probably want the chance to search for my own orange shoes.  Maybe give people the offer - wear these shoes I bought for you or find your own in this color. 

Yeah, sisters are kind of blunt!  I have two!  And one is named Colleen LOL.

Can you hold on to the receipt just in case she doesn't find those perfect summery strappy orange sandals?

BmoreBride311

This sounds just like my MOH (also my sister) when we went through something similar with dresses. I wanted navy and she kept trying to get me to choose any  possible color other than navy. I was letting her pick the style of the dress, I just wanted to choose the color. It's just annoying b/c I know if I'm her MOH when she gets married, I will wear what she wants and not make a fuss about it b/c it's her day.

Your sister is only going to have to wear the shoes for a few hours (through the ceremony and pictures, I'm assuming) so I don't think she should make a big deal, especially since you are offering to buy the shoes for her. Could you suggest to her that you wouldn't mind if she changed to flats or other shoes if she wants to after the pictures are done?

michelle11988

I think sisters are pretty blunt and that is part of the issue.  Thankfully my sister is easy going but she will tell me flat out her opinions.  I would give them the option to find their own shoes.  I'm really picky with shoes and would rather find my own orange heals probably or at least have the option to look for them.  If they can't find anything then they can have you buy those shoes for them.

Carla1019

Sorry for your frustration, but can I play devil's advocate for a sec. I have funny shaped feet and 90% of closed toe shoes are very uncomfortable for me. This is why I am allowing my BMs to select their own shoes and I told them the color.

This might not be your sister's situation but be very careful when it comes to making your BM wear a certain shoe.  Since they will dance and stand a lot during your wedding you have to consider their comfort. 

k8888

IMO, I think that buying one specific shoe for every girl to wear is dangerous and I would be upset if a bride did this to me since you are all going to be on your feet for many hours the day of your wedding (I'm super picky with my own shoes).  While it is a really nice gesture on your part, I think a better option would be to have the girls buy a shoe that would be most comfortable for them, and then have them dyed orange, if this is a possibility.

I guess your sister was just trying to be honest with you, but sisters will be sisters. 

PS-I love the royal blue with orange... I can't wait to see how it turns out