Knottie of the Week - sultryzulu

mejai1

Um... you WOULD be knottie of the week RIGHT after I got married!!! I can't even give this reply justice... it is SOOOO nice to meet you Bongi and to put more story to you!!! It really is a pleasure to make your acquaintance. I don't know how to make that sound really sincere, but it is. 

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[QUOTE]Nobody’s ever heard of it, it’s a teeny private school named Fairleigh Dickinson located in the entertainment capital of the world: Teaneck, N.J .- Stop it Sultry you know dam well my Jerssey ass knows where FDU is!  Christmas Eve (12/24 – he). Yeah he gets beat for the combo gift all the time. lol .- That's my Aunts bday! My mom's is the 14th along with my Aunts n my mom be luck if she get a gift. N I got a miiloion friends bday in Dec too all they get is a HAPPY BIRTHDAY! lol Time #2: we’d just woken up and he was talking. It was quiet and casual and intimate, he just stopped in the middle of his sentence and said will you marry me for real this time? I said absolutely, just as soon as you brush your teeth. LMAO. So, were you given the same ring, no ring, new ring- you skipped that part. Favorite tv show? Now it’s Modern Family and Boardwalk Empire- Yup mine and his! Quirky? I’ve got a superhighpowered snout, smell is the first thing I notice about anything/anyone.  Me too! I thought I was the only one. FI be like dam you always smelling something lol. My 2 yr old hates it too cuz I be finding out he missed the potty a sec after it shoots out his behind lol.  
Posted by TL25[/QUOTE]

is it because florham's campus is near you?  neesh I'm telling you we'd be across the street on somebody's lawn tambout we go to school over there and the residential neighbors would be like there's a college across the street?

combo bday gift - girl he's good and over it by now as well he should be the guy is 53. 

tv - the weird thing about both of those is he doesn't like either show and I'm a tvnista, he doesn't like any of the stuff I watch.  his favorite? Barney Miller.  The UNFunniest thing to ever appear on celluloid.

ring - baby who?  I earned that shyt, it was always gonna be kept.  lol!  we sold it for an upgrade, she's beauteous.  *swoon* 

snout - you know what my nickname is at home?  snoopermom.  not because I search (I don't have to)  just because I KNOW.  lol.     I'm not as bad as you though, I can't really say I've ever been tempted to look for poo. 
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[QUOTE]Lit Review /> sultry's post > dissertation I just read Thanks for sharing hun. Fly down to FL for my wedding!
Posted by M1ssJ[/QUOTE]

Dr.  J sounds corny (and it's already in use) come up with a new way to be addressed please.   Chile you are not daring me, post where it's gonna be and I'm coming.

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[QUOTE]Um... you WOULD be knottie of the week RIGHT after I got married!!! I can't even give this reply justice... it is SOOOO nice to meet you Bongi and to put more story to you!!! It really is a pleasure to make your acquaintance. I don't know how to make that sound really sincere, but it is. 
Posted by mejai1[/QUOTE]

Thank you chele! you can't sound anything but sincere m'luv.  I've been hit or miss this week so I have to check for your recap but I'm sooooooo happy for you two, I hope that everything went well and you had the day you've always envisioned. 

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Knottie of the Week - sultryzulu : Dr.  J sounds corny (and it's already in use) come up with a new way to be addressed please.   Chile you are not daring me, post where it's gonna be and I'm coming.
Posted by sultryzulu[/QUOTE]

<div>Nope Dr.J is all mine!!! I am using it!!</div>

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[QUOTE]don't hate me because I'm verbal :) 1. First Name & Fiance's First Name:   Bongi and Steve 2. Your Birthday & Age and Fiance's Birthday and Age     lucky sevens (7/7 – me)   Christmas Eve (12/24 – he).   Yeah he gets beat for the combo gift all the time. lol. 3. City Born In?   London, England 4. City Live in?   Northern, NJ.    Iownknowyalllikethat!.org   Lol. 5. Where did you go to college?   Nobody’s ever heard of it, it’s a teeny private school named Fairleigh Dickinson located in the entertainment capital of the world: Teaneck, N.J. 6. What was your major?   You can’t tell from the way I run this mouf?   Communications, back in the day when we thought Radio would last forever.     Is there anybody here older than me, do ya’ll even have radios? 7. What is your current job?   Regulatory Insurance Licensing Analyst.   Yeah try to contain your jealousy. 8. What is your dream job?   3 way tie:    Alex Trebek’s job, except without that smug thing he does.   Believe it or not Wedding Planner, but stressed people stress me sooo there’s that.   Third, commercial pilot.   Just because I think I’d be cool den a mugg to have somebody ask to see the Captain and be able to go: you’re lookin at her.   Plus I’ve always wanted to say some real crazy shyt over the p.a. system, like to the lady with the screaming baby:   it helps if you rock and walk, all other passengers please stand down and keep the aisles clear. 9. How did you and your fiance meet?    Online.   In his profile, he used the term *grammar nerd* (how I describe myself) and then when I heard his voice for the first time (he’s a baritone) I knew I was dead. 10.  When did you get engaged and how did he do it??   This our 2 nd bite at this particular apple.   The weird thing is I don’t remember the specific date of either engagement but the general time period.   Picture it, it’s summer 2010.   He’s standing in my bedroom and picks up a piece of costume jewelry lying on my dresser and asks why I never wear it.   I say it’s too big hun.   He says try it on.   I say take my word for it, it doesn’t fit, see? (as I show him that it swims around my fattest knuckle) he says you’re not gonna get it fixed?   Now I’m getting annoyed that he cares way too much about something he ordinarily would’ve let go of long before.   I say you can’t size costume jewelry, it’s not real metal.   He says then what’d you buy it for?   I say it was pretty and shiny and it cost four dollars, who walks away from something like that?   All of a sudden his face relaxes, he reaches into his pocket and goes, why don’t we see if this one fits any better?   The room went all pink and fuzzy andthenIflatlined.    That was time #1.   We were engaged for 6 months when I called the wedding off.   We stayed broken up for nearly a year then got back together in November 2011 (11/11/06 is the date we met and 11/11/11 was our original wedding date).     Time #2: we’d just woken up and he was talking.   It was quiet and casual and intimate, he just stopped in the middle of his sentence and said will you marry me for real this time?   I said absolutely, just as soon as you brush your teeth. 11. When is the Wedding Day?   June 8, 2013 12. Where is the ceremony and reception?   Ceremony’s at my church. (I think I heard our deacon say) it’s the largest R.C. cathedral in N.J., my cue to give em what they came for lol.    Reception is at a historic Women’s Club - our guest list is under 80 ppl (says me). 13. What are your wedding colors?   Navy, Fuchsia, Blush Pink or to hear Morgan’s fancyass tell it:   cobalt and raspberry.   Lol. 14. Where are you honeymooning?   Haven’t made the plans yet but mini mooning in Playa del Carmen Mexico and mooning mooning in Zimbali, South Africa but that flight is not a game so we’ll see. 15. Favorite wedding vendor so far?   Photographer, who is the moon, the sun and the stars, just an all around sweetheart of a human being.    16. Biggest wedding splurge?   It’s definitely the dress.   Plan on recouping though, that girl is leaving my closet the minute the dry cleaner’s done.   Listing her for sale right before the wedding. 17. What is something you wish you could have at the wedding but don't?    My parents. 18. Another knottie wedding you'd like to attend?   All of em, see response #8b.   I heart weddings so if you gone be grown and post your ceremony location, don’t be shocked to see this <---- here face in the crowd, Mery!! :) 19. Favorite book?   Tie between Ken Follett’s Pillars of the Earth and Sapphire’s Push (the book that the movie Precious was based on) but by favorite I don’t necessarily mean most enjoyable, I mean most memorable. 20. Favorite movie?   Another tie:   The Notebook/Color Purple/Shawshank.     21. Favorite tv show?   Of all time?   probably Frasier.   Now it’s Modern Family and Boardwalk Empire 22. Favorite wedding dress designer?   Monique Lhullier and Ines di Santo.   Can’t rep *my* designer (tornai) because she’s notorious for a style the council and I call blingedoutstripperfairy.     This pattern was a subdued moment for her because my dress has no nekkid ways. 23. Any advice you can give?   I’m not qualified as yet but about relationships in general, choose your battles wisely and even then work on your timing and delivery.   This sounded archaic as hell when I was younger but it has been true in every long lived marriage I’ve (personally) ever seen:    marry a man who loves you more than you love him.     Not that you don’t love him but, Ephesians 5:25 and/or Cliff and Claire Huxtable, circa 1989.   that is all. lol. 24. Anything you wish you could change about your wedding? The cost.   We are and continue to be blessed and he cooperates with all my plotting and planning BUT in the grand scheme of things where “things” = children to educate, a mortgage with 50-leven remaining payments and my general headshakey attitude about depreciating assets, it’s one day.    memorable doesn’t have to equal expensive.   25. Share something about yourself!     Quirky?   I’ve got a superhighpowered snout, smell is the first thing I notice about anything/anyone.   My food cannot touch and in order to avoid this calamity I’ll turn the plate to reach something on the other side of it, as opposed to reaching over with my utensils.    I make my kidneys work harder than they should because I hate to pee (don’t bother, I don’t know why either).     Lifetime movieish something? Eek.   Get some snacks, this’ll take a minute.   Okay #17.    My folks are sociopaths.   Hey there’s a sentence you don’t hear everyday.   Bwah.   Not in a natural-born-killers kind of way.   More specifically, my mom is on the low end of the sociopathic spectrum, my dad is the pacifist who justifies her behavior.    Anyway, it’s not exclusive to me but after a lifetime of salty mess and greazy talk, one day I was like you know what ya’ll, happiness is a choice, with all due respect you had the first 40 years, these here next 40, are for me.   deuces mah dudes.    I went from being joy luck club dutiful to changing my phone number and giving them the parameters under which they could see/contact their only grand (full access as long as it didn’t interfere with bedtime/homework).   Their response was to file for sole custody (b/c they weren’t used to me setting any parameters).    The idea of her being in the emotional position of feeling like she had to choose between us had me bent at a 90 degree angle.   1 Kings 3:16.   It was the first time I understood that scripture for real.   Day of our first hearing consisted of the judge spanking. that. ass. They lost the bid for custody but under the law, she couldn’t deny them their entitlement to visitation.   Told em what she thought if them as people (no bueno) and said she would’ve prevented visitation of she legally could have but did the next best thing and ordered them to reimburse 10 grand in my attorneys’ fees.    They don’t handle *defeat* well at all.   that’s important to remember for this here next paragraph.   But wait, if you act now, we’ll throw in this special bonus gift:    November 2011.     DYFS calls me at work.    Hi there, we’re investigating allegations that twirlygirl is being sexually abused so hey howsabout we stop by the house tonight for a chat?   Words fail (and you know how hard that is for me lol).   Thought bubble:   WHAT? this couldn’t be true, could it?? if it is Dear God my poor baby.   Were there signs I missed? And because I missed them it changed her forever??   when? how? who? God. Help. Him. WHO?       Lemme just interrupt our narrative to say that in IRL, about my child, I’m the most stranger-dangery person you’ll ever meet.   I wouldn’t allow her to put her name on the school sweatshirt we just ordered because it also has the name of her school on it.   She’s not allowed to operate the stove without one of us in the kitchen, walk into a corner store, have facebook/ email or appear in her summer camp’s marketing photo brochure, not n’air wunna those.   Steve’s always saying I’ve gotta give her some independence and breathing room and my answer to him is always the same:   you used to be a cop, tell me what day of the week predators have off?   point is you could’ve knocked me over with a feather if this had been happening to my kid.     The investigation lasted until May 11, 2012.   Caseworker, social worker, agency and the prosecutor’s office all said, on paper, GTFOHWTBS, we’re busy with families where there is actually a child at risk and a need for our services.   The kicker is that filing false allegations is a crime, except when it comes to dyfs because as B and Tanya can attest to, advocacy on behalf of a child is encouraged and in order to continue encouraging it, the reporter is automatically exempt.   There’s nothing in the system that addresses shady ass shade.     If their shenanigans had been successful, if the abuse alleged was actually present, she would’ve been removed from home and very likely placed with them, without incurring legal bills and I’dve had to pay them child support, so they should’ve really started with this as a strategy.    Devil may be a lie, but he’s no dummy.     I say stuff that belongs on cornymess.com all the time but two of my favorites are:   “Can’t have testimony if you don’t have a test” and “Don’t tell God how mighty your storm is, tell the storm how mighty your God is”     Somebody turn to your neighbor and say my God is mighty.   Lol!!     Oh my *smooths skirt* who’s hungry?  
Posted by sultryzulu[/QUOTE]

Girly!!!!! Well it is great to have finally met YOU!!!!! You have a story girl, but I will tell you those court cases when it comes to kids is NO JOKE! I went through a custody battle with my son's father when he was 2 years old and I had JUST moved back to DC 1 month before. I ended up having to go through psych evals and everything just because he claimed I was crazy and was going to harm the child that I had solely taken care of for 2 yrs. RIGHT.

BTW.....I LOVE your CHIC Colors! Get it Raspberry :)

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hey More!  *wavey*  thanks girl.  I think that officially qualifies as oversharing, thanks for getting through it all though lol. 

baby, bye.  the 3 things I pledged not to discuss in public are my current weight, the state of california versus orenthal james simpson and the whole ball of wax that is child support.  I can't it raises my presha.    the system is a blessing and a curse, you didn't say how it turned out for you?

I gotcha raspberry right here