My husband and I got married hastily here in Virginia. His family is all in Nigeria. We are taking our time planning and saving money to have a wedding that will include both families. The wedding will be here in the states, but I can't get any input from him as to ideas for mixing the two cultures. I want to include food, music, and decor that pays homage to both of our cultures, but I don't know where to get inspiration or ideas. Does anyone here know anything about traditional Yoruba weddings? Since we are technically already married, there are a few pre-wedding rituals that won't be neccessary. But I want to pay respect to his culture and make sure both familes are comfortable. For example, in Nigeria, food is typically eaten with the hands. So I was thinking of offering a mixed menu of traditional foods from both cultures, along with descriptions of the foods and brief descriptions of how each dish is eaten. I want to encourage both sides to try something new, as well as avoid any awkward situations where someone isn't sure how to eat something. Other than that and adding some African decor, I am really lost. What types of ceremonies are neccessary to take place before the wedding? What do I expect from his family as far as monetary contribution and/or participation in the planning? Any help that anyone can offer would be GREATLY appreciated.