Bridal Party

flawlessfay

Ladies,

ok, so i have 5 girls in my bridal party. My BESTFRIEND for over 15 years. The other 4 are close friends and my cousin. One is married but i did not make her a Matron of honor, i made her a bridesmaid........ One of my other friends said it is not right to make a married person a bridesmaid.... Emm, i had to tell her off but i did not recall asking her for advice on what to do for my wedding.... Ok, im done

TNMurray

LOL... I have a maried BM, just to back u up.

flawlessfay

Girl she ended up crying because i said "I did not re-call asking her for any questions...lol

flasweetheart

LOL! I would have asked her where she heard that at cause never heard that one.  I have a married BM also.

tyboyd

I have a married BM, too. And I don't want a MatronOH! Oh well. And I suggest no one say anything about it!

eagles347

I have a married bridesmaid as well.

BluIvory82

OMG, people are funny! lol Where did that "rule" come from? Last time I checked it is your wedding and you can have anybody in any role you want. I wish somebody would, lol

ellone400

ha ha thats too funny never heard  of it but im ignoring that one if it is no one can tell you what to have in the wedding.

admallard

Lol whatever! I have a married BM too! And my MOH is my best friend...who isn't married!!!! Do what you want to do!

flawlessfay

lol, Yea i do not understand folks who just think they know everything about weddings and DO's and DONT..... Made her cry.... o well, she knows me well enough to know better

tjw2011

Well, my maid of honor is my best friend since we were nine so that's a little over 20 years and I have two BM's that are married one of which is my cousin.  I could've made her my matron of honor, but I didn't want one, therefore, she's a BM. 

It's your wedding, you can do what you want!!!

7venAfricano

Umm, she is clearly mistaken. Because a MAID of Honor is UNMARRIED, a MATRON of Honor, IS MARRIED. And for that whole, "a bridesmaid can't be married" who told her that bold faced lie? I have 3 married bridesmaid- what, is the wedding party police gonna arrest me for having married women as my bridesmaids? I think not. It's YOUR wedding, tell the rest to either get with it or fall back. As long as you aren't being a Bridezilla about your wedding, nobody should add their two cents when it isn't asked for.

kiyamurph

Wow that's a first.  I honestly have no idea where people come up with these things.  I have a married BM as well and surprisingly, the world has not come to an end. 

shesheduke

I have three married BM and I don't care what anyone thinks tell her to go lay down somewhere and let you do you!

AngelLyn

I've never heard this as well.  If that's the case I'm out of luck, because just about all my bridal party is married or will be married by the time our day gets here.

lil01

Ok....what is her source? You can always count on SOMEBODY putting their foot in their mouth. Hilarious! Your wedding & your decision.

krimson19

tell her to sit down.  i had a married BM the first time around. 

prettymami2

Girl Boo, please tell her to shut her face and as you already stated, "yeah mmmm don't remember asking for your two cents" **pause** Mmmmm kay moving on.

If that's the case we would all have a bunch of unmarried bridesmaids. That makes no sense at all. KICK ROCKS!!!

banks69

Actually, historically, bridesmaids were defined as women who had never been married.  But back then, most people were getting married so much earlier in life.  If I had to live by that rule, no one would be in my bridal party (actually I only have a Matron of Honor - but by choice) since everyone I know is either married or has been married!  So, what I've discovered in my year-plus time of wedding planning is that I had to get rid of a lot of "tradition" because otherwise my wedding would not be a true reflection of FI and I.

summerbride11

I had a married BM and my sister who is not married was my MOH.

hatroopes

lol, so funny. I asked a married friend of mine to be a bridesmaid, and she basically told me she wanted to be known as a matron-of-honor because she's a married woman. I had never heard of that before either, so I told her my sister would be my maid-of-honor and the other girls would be bridesmaids. She had a nasty attitude about the whole thing which I didn't think was such big deal. Anyway, long story short, she is no longer in the wedding and my life has been a lot less stressful - glad she acted that way earlier on, so I wouldn't have to deal with all that drama close to the wedding lol