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NWR: UPDATES!! VERY LONG!!!

Fiance's surprise party went welll.   I had him come to my moms house after work and of coarse.....smh.... people on CP time,  he got there before the guests.  He met his one Indian frined (also late) walking up my driveway....smh.  Everyone trickled in bit by bit.  The yeard looked beautiful.. I put up a tent with lights and candles on the tables, some dancing and SPADES playing on the deck.  He had a great time.  All though the "surprise" moment was a miss he was still surprised to see so many of his friends (some he hadnt seen in months) turn out.

The FAMILIA de fiance:  
Well ladies, good and bad.......
As many of you know, the mom and his matriarch aunt arent big fans of me.  But out of the woodworks are popping up other family members that are being kind, welcoming, and accomodating.   Sending well wishes for the wedding and wanting to meet me.   So I feel good

a lil background :   Also, He had been going through alot of spiritual issues with us getting married.  About the fact that I was married.  At one point he even stated he wasnt sure that he'd be happy on our wedding day because he knew according to the bible our mariage was a sin......

So his Aunty evil, sent me a horrible horrible letter in the mail last week.  FI gave her an invite and she mailed it back with this letter that I will paraphrase.  She says she would not attend and support "such an aggregous act"  She goes on and refers  to me as a gold digger who was up to no good and was just using him to take care of myself and my "two black boys".....yes ladies she said that.  And yes, she is black.  She goes on to talk about my other (who she has NEVER MET) and how we are inconsiderate to be planning a wedding while FI's mom is dying,  She goes on to say I should not visit her sister nor call her....his mom and I have been developing a phone relationship since my last post about it and we are going to see her this weekend.  She says that the ENTIRE FAMILY is mourning our "so-called marriage" ... Ive been getting congrats afrom all over and even spoke to another aunt in Jamaica last night who is considering flying up for the wedding.  FI and I are trying to plan a trip to Jamaica to meet the rest of his fam down there and mine to. 


WELL THE DEVIL IS A LIAR LADIES!!! 
Everything he means for evil, God will turn to good for all that trust and believe in him.

I prayed over this letter and what to do with it.  God said "do nothing".  Although FI wanted to approach her about it (AND SO DID I) I begged him to follow what God had told me in prayer.  Although I had shared it with my mom and 2 besties I stopped there and do not intend on using it for any type of revenge.  SINCE THEN, FI has been extra loving and caring to me and talking all about how he cant wait for me to be his bride...  I think the letter made him see that all that pressure about "God's law" was rooted in something un-Christian.   My baby and I have never been closer.  And as the date approaches, the very thing made in effort to tear us apart has grown us closer


PRAISE THE ALMIGHTY!
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  • mery please, that wasn't even long.  take a look at the link inTanya's thread.  Now that heffa is verbal.

    and PRAISE HIM.

    can you (for me) please, send her back a one sentence reply:

    "you spelled egregious wrong Hester"

    Foot in mouth

  • Yes Lawd.  That link in Tanya's thread requires a bookmark when reading.  My eyes are still trying to recover.

    That Auntie needs a mirror.  God does not like UGLY.

    Very happy that you and your FH and grounded in each other.  Your bond must be very strong because the devil is on the attack.  Keep on stomping on him girl! 



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    [QUOTE]mery please, that wasn't even long.  take a look at the link inTanya's thread.  Now that heffa is verbal. and PRAISE HIM. can you (for me) please, send her back a one sentence reply: "you spelled egregious wrong Hester"
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    Girl bye, there were soo many sp errors, and grammar errors I could a took a red pen to it.  And btw, this letter is 6 PAGES LONG!!!

    I also forgot to mention I did speak to my pastor about it.  She wanted wayne to approach the aunt on it, but i kept insisting that I had prayed on it and God wanted it left be.  Even the pastor was saying that letter was written from an evil place and should be destroyed.  Its in my room and I mean to burn it WITH FI tonight.  My mom says that I should keep a copy tho, that things like this find themselves useful later
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  • thats a blessing
    dont let his aunt steal yall joy or happiness
    i am glad that you and fmil are on better terms :) 
    it will all work out 

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    Congrats on pulling off a great party in the midst of wedding planning!  We knew you could do it!!

    I'm glad you saw that cray cray letter in it's proper perspective.  Good for the two of you!!!  and heyyyyy!  What's wrong with black boys?  smh @ Aunt, she clearly has too much time on her hands.
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  • So glad, you are building on the relationship with FMIL, and were able to pull off the graduation party for the graduation you FH was not able to attend (still SMH on that one!!).

    I am not sure what gives some people the courage to interfere in the lifes of others, and include name calling!!  That Aunt will get hers, as Island said, "God don't like ugly".  Keep strong, and don't let this ruin you planning and come between you and FH.  KEEP TAKING THE HIGH ROAD.

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    [QUOTE]So glad, you are building on the relationship with FMIL, and were able to pull off the graduation party for the graduation you FH was not able to attend (still SMH on that one!!). I am not sure what gives some people the courage to interfere in the lifes of others, and include name calling!!  That Aunt will get hers, as Island said, "God don't like ugly".  Keep strong, and don't let this ruin you planning and come between you and FH.  KEEP TAKING THE HIGH ROAD.
    Posted by cassy1294[/QUOTE]

    All of this!.. Im happy to hear that you and FI are closer than ever.. continue to keep grounded in that closeness.. and continue to build on the relationship that your FMIL and you have started.. only God knows where that letter came from... and you are right to listen to the spirit!
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