Getting married every year...

MrsBoss2012

So I'm not sure if any of you ladies watch BBall wives LA but there is a woman on there who marries her husband every year with this being their 16th year. (Doug and Jackie Christy) Her reasoning is "if you're planning a wedding you don't have time to plan a divorce." Now I know the majority of us don't even have the budget to have a wedding every year but is it even necessary? The other girls admire her because with Bball husbands its hard to stay married. To me, the vows say til death do us part...so they don't expire! I'm not judging though...just wondering what do ya'll think?

wallacje

The first time she said that I was like "Seriously" who has time or money to do that.  In my opinion don't marry me the first time if you don't mean it.

I did think their ceremony was cute, it didn't seem like they had any less love for each especially when Doug teared up, I'm partial maybe cause I also got married in Vegas and our reception suite looked pretty similar to theirs except without the pool.

MrsBoss2012

Yes the ceremony was definitely beautiful and very emotional with her mom Skypeing in and with Doug tearing up!

chescam

Ridiculous!! That's all I got to say. What's the point

mikimoto6

 I agree with chescam.  It is silly.  If a couple chooses a vow renewal at significant points in their marriage, 25, 30, 40, 50, etc. that is different. I think that Jackie and her premise for the annual wedding are silly.  She should have something more to do with her time and money. She could be sending poor kids to college with that wedding money or donating it to an HBCU.  

Edit: I didn't attend an HBCU, but if I came into a large sum of money, I would give way more to HBCU's than my alma mater.  I got a great education,but until they repeal SB 1 (Prop 209), I will not be adding to their endowment until they make a larger commitment to educate black kids.  

Soon2BSand

The concept is cute... in theory. I mean I get it. FI and I do things that the vast majority may think is odd or worse. I say what's good for the goose isn't always good for the gander. It apparently had worked for 16 years which is more than I can say for most (not to mention) Hollywood marriages.

hatroopes

I was skeptical at first too when I heard that, but the ceremony was cute. I do agree that is does seem to be a waste of money - they can have something very small in front of their officiant and use the money for a greater good, but to have something extravagant like that every year is a bit much. I don't know if it can be singled out as the reason why they're still together because you can do all that and things could still be rocky at home. I personally would not want to plan a wedding (or vow renewal) every year

Sophia1913

Yesssssss, I knew my sistahs would post something about this today.  Maybe I'm not focused here, but to me what the heck was going on with her hair and makeup.  She had a guy there "doing" her hair and makeup and when he was finished I was thinking, that's it?????? 

On the issue of her getting married every year, I think its a little over the top but if she was going to do it, maybe just something small with the couple and their kids would be nice.  The way she does it its like an actual wedding over and over again, with a wedding party, guests, a reception and the whole shabang!!!!  Just my two cents.

Carla1019

I can't fault them on having a wedding every year by saying they could spend the money elsewhere. I would be hypercritical because I can't stand my people telling me I'm spending too much money on my wedding and why don't I do a destination or small ceremony. If you earned your money you have every right to spend it how ever you choose.

My problem with her is that she had a bachelorette party as a married woman. This is very disrespectful that another man is putting his junk in your face.

mlewis85

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[QUOTE]I can't fault them on having a wedding every year by saying they could spend the money elsewhere. I would be hypercritical because I can't stand my people telling me I'm spending too much money on my wedding and why don't I do a destination or small ceremony. If you earned your money you have every right to spend it how ever you choose. My problem with her is that she had a bachelorette party as a married woman. <strong>This is very disrespectful that another man is putting his junk in your face.
</strong>Posted by Carla1019[/QUOTE]

I thought that too.  Even if she is renewing her vows, she's NOT a bachelorette anymore.

I wouldn't do the yearly wedding thing but rich people spend their money on all kinds of junk.  Better that than the hookers and drugs celebrities seem to spend their money on.

ElleB87

The concept is cute but I would never go all out every year.  FI and I have talked about "renewing" our vows to each other every year, as in setting a few minutes aside on our anniversary to say them to each other privately again, or write each other love letters or something like that.  I don't like how she calls it a "wedding" because it's not.  You can only getting married to a person once, unless you divorce them.

MsAmeera25

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[QUOTE]Maybe I'm not focused here, but to me what the heck was going on with her hair and makeup.  She had a guy there "doing" her hair and makeup and when he was finished I was thinking, that's it?????? .
Posted by Sophia1913[/QUOTE]

This is exactly what I was thinking lol

M1ssJ

I'm torn, I think it sounds cool but.... the production she made outof it was a bit much

Sophia1913

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Getting married every year... : This is exactly what I was thinking lol
Posted by MsAmeera25[/QUOTE]

Whew, thanks.  I'm glad I'm not the only one. 

tychandler

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[QUOTE]The concept is cute but I would never go all out every year.  FI and I have talked about "renewing" our vows to each other every year, as in setting a few minutes aside on our anniversary to say them to each other privately again, or write each other love letters or something like that.  I don't like how she calls it a "wedding" because it's not.  You can only getting married to a person once, unless you divorce them.
Posted by ElleB87[/QUOTE]

That's actually not true.  In NY you can remarry as much as you want and you get a new marriage licence and everything. each time, which kind of nulls that last one.  In fact you have to remarry your spouse if you didn't take his last name the first time and want to do it later. 

I personally wouldn't do it every year, but it works for them and the ceremony wasn't over the top and seemed rather intimate.