Feeling a bit frustrated

Carla1019

Everything is going so well with planning this wedding but the people in my life are being difficult for no reason. First, my parents have made it clear that they are not attending the wedding. One of my oldest friends who is now a BM is pulling a disappearing act. I haven't heard from her in over a month. She even took her FB page down. I know for a fact she is not lying in a hospital bed b/c I spoke with her brother.

At this point I don't know who will walk me down the aisle. I really don't want to walk down by myself. I know everything will work out but I can't help but to feel sad.

mrsnana

First trust in God girl! He is ALWAYS good and ALWAYS works it out!! I know it is very hurtful to you that your family is not supportive, but it is their loss. Your day is going to come no matter and it is a Blessing. Continue to pray that they will come around, but if they don't, the show must go on! This is a lifetime commitment, not a day, so hopefully they will realize that just because they don't come for the one day, that you will still be very married the next day after that and many more to come. I hope it all works out for you and I will keep you in my prayers!

tyboyd

Don't be frustrated. I hightly doubt that your parents would miss your wedding. And do you have an older brother? Or an uncle? He can walk you down the aisle.

And for the BM... don't even let them get to you. I have one now that still hasn't ordered her dress {my SISTER!}. I've been telling them to order because CLEARLY my wedding is in 2 month! I'm at the point now that I don't care. You can't let them acting up effect you. Just keep it moving. It's YOUR and FI's wedding, not theirs.

hotrocker2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_feeling-bit-frustrated?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:e28efe46-4fe6-4f5f-8089-340c28aa238ePost:225a0b43-1ef1-415a-87bc-3a002f91a37f">Re: Feeling a bit frustrated</a>:
[QUOTE]Don't be frustrated. I hightly doubt that your parents would miss your wedding. And do you have an older brother? Or an uncle? He can walk you down the aisle. And for the BM... don't even let them get to you. I have one now that still hasn't ordered her dress {my SISTER!}. I've been telling them to order because CLEARLY my wedding is in 2 month! I'm at the point now that I don't care. <strong>You can't let them acting up effect you. Just keep it moving. It's YOUR and FI's wedding, not theirs</strong>.
Posted by tyboyd[/QUOTE]

THIS!!! I would give ppl dead lines and if they don't have it together, then oh well you will be sitting in the audience....

lil01

Sorry you're feeling this way. If there's a reason why your parents won't come maybe you could talk to them & try to get them to come. I wouldn't beg, but make sure they are content with their decision. If you have another male figure in your life, you could ask him to walk you down the aisle.

As far as the BM situation, don't trip. Either she will get herself together and be supportive or not. Don't let it bother you too much cause you can still get married & have a wonderful wedding whether she's present or not. A lot of us ladies on here have gone through this....trust. It'll get better!