Someone Please HELP

peachy2012

I know its late so I'll probably post again in the morning Lol...ok my coordinator canceled on me 2 days before my wedding! I have already been very stressed because I have been doing EVERYTHING myself, I haven't had a good nioghts sleep in weeks. My back hurts I have a headache all day today I am really trying to stay calm but I am so frustrated. Since I have to do this now I need help with the timeline of the reception. I pretty much know how I want the ceremony but I don't know what comes next after the parent dances. When is the toast, when is the cake cutting?

I haven't even had time to see what we are going to do when we leave for honeymoon

footballwife77

Ok, first step... BREATHE. innnnnnnn and ouuuuuut. 2nd take some tylenol pm and SLEEP. like right now. Cha literally just got married, and she's still on here. she'll be checking in shortly to help you!

M1ssJ

Ok Hun I'm sorry this is happening. Lets do this ! We have your back. Introductions First dance right as you walk in Serving of first course MOH Best man toast Serving of main course if your parents are giving a toast they can do it here If they are not you can make rounds and greet guests. Towards the middle of dinner service cut the cake Start the party About 20 minutes in do the garter and bouquet toss Dance 5 minutes before wrap up do the last dance. I will find an exact timeline. What's your email address?

CreoleBride30

{{{hugs}}} Sorry this is happening. Take some time to get some rest. Remember this is just one day...it's an event. Nine x out of ten many won't notice if something goes wrong so remember it is okay. Don't stress yourself on if this day will be perfect...remember, nothing is perfect. We will be praying for you and please keep us updated on your progress everyday. Now, first things first....when is your wedding?...You said your Coordinator quite 2 days before so is your wedding on October 13th. Do you have ANYONE that can help you to smooth things out for the wedding? You should have someone to help you coordinate the wedding rehearsal if you are having one. 

On to the reception: (disclaimer...you do what's best for you. Stay simple and things will flow. There is no wrong or right way...simply because you are the host of your own event...you organize it in a way that's more condusive for you, hubby, venue, guests, etc.) With that being said, It truly depends on how you want to do it. I like M1ssJ timeline.

For us, we felt like doing everything all within the first hour which was the best for us. We did not want to have to start eating then stop to cut the cake. Stop the dancing to do the toasts, etc. It definitely gave us more time to dance and spend time with guests and enjoy the photo booth! So here is what we did:

*Wedding Party Intros: Groom parents, Brides parents, Matrons & best men (we only had MOH and Best Men...no brides maids or groom's men), Flower girls + broom carrier.

 

*Intro of Bride & Groom

*First Dance

*Mother-son/Father-daughter dance (after hubby and I danced, DJ moved on to our parents dance song. We got them from their seats and brought them on the dance floor and danced...of course we didn't do the whole song)

*Cake Cutting (we easily moved on to the cake for the cake cutting) Took pics, cut cake, etc. We didn't have the wedding party to stand around to take pics...just us two. 

*Blessing & Dinner

*We did not do any toasts. But I would put it while people are eating. That way they can pay attention while they are eating or being served...I guess it depends on if you will have buffet style or sit down meal. 

*Dancing

*Our thank you to all the guests were at the end. I was feeling good and basically just took the mic...this was not planned LOL!

We did not do a garter or bouquet toss. Our photo booth was opened during cocktail hour which was while we took our pictures outside before we were introduced for the reception. During cocktail hour (which probably wasn't even an hour) the bar was open and we had passed hors d'oeuvres.

Hope this helps. I have a timeline of events but it is very detailed. I'm sure it may be too late to even put this together as it may stress you out more. But I do have it if anyone wants the template. If you have any questions, feel free to ask.

Cha

FYI: MrsSmith2Be is a wedding coordinator/event's planner. I'm not positive, but I think either she is in ATL or her wedding is in ATL. Maybe you can chat with her and see if she can be of some assistance.

Cha

MrsBad13

Aww sissy... I agree with Cha and M1ssJ..everything will work out fine ! Im following Cha timeline so if you go similar to that route i think u will be ok !

M1ssJ

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[QUOTE]I know its late so I'll probably post again in the morning Lol...ok my coordinator canceled on me 2 days before my wedding! I have already been very stressed because I have been doing EVERYTHING myself, I haven't had a good nioghts sleep in weeks. My back hurts I have a headache all day today I am really trying to stay calm but I am so frustrated. Since I have to do this now I need help with the timeline of the reception. I pretty much know how I want the ceremony but I don't know what comes next after the parent dances. When is the toast, when is the cake cutting? I haven't even had time to see what we are going to do when we leave for honeymoon
Posted by peachy2012[/QUOTE]

<div>Peachy. Check your PMs!</div>

MrsSmith2Be02

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[QUOTE]I know its late so I'll probably post again in the morning Lol...ok my coordinator canceled on me 2 days before my wedding! I have already been very stressed because I have been doing EVERYTHING myself, I haven't had a good nioghts sleep in weeks. My back hurts I have a headache all day today I am really trying to stay calm but I am so frustrated. Since I have to do this now I need help with the timeline of the reception. I pretty much know how I want the ceremony but I don't know what comes next after the parent dances. When is the toast, when is the cake cutting? I haven't even had time to see what we are going to do when we leave for honeymoon
Posted by peachy2012[/QUOTE]

Don't stress! Timeline of the reception basically can flow how you want it. Typically it goes like this (i'm using times just for spacing sake):

7:30 WP introduction
7:40 Bride & Groom introduction
7:43 First Dance
7:48 Father / Daughter Dance
7:53 Mother/ Son Dance
7:58 (Insert cake cutting here to get it out the way if you choose)
8:00 Dinner
8:45 (toasts begin)
9:00 Cake cutting if you didn't do before
9:10 Any other special stuff (Sorority / Fraternity serenades)
9:20 Bouquet Toss
9:25 Garter Toss
9:30 LETS PARTY

Hope that helps.

MrsSmith2Be02

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[QUOTE]{{{hugs}}} Sorry this is happening. Take some time to get some rest. Remember this is just one day...it's an event. Nine x out of ten many won't notice if something goes wrong so remember it is okay. Don't stress yourself on if this day will be perfect...remember, nothing is perfect. We will be praying for you and please keep us updated on your progress everyday. Now, first things first....when is your wedding?...You said your Coordinator quite 2 days before so is your wedding on October 13th. Do you have ANYONE that can help you to smooth things out for the wedding? You should have someone to help you coordinate the wedding rehearsal if you are having one.  On to the reception: (disclaimer...you do what's best for you. Stay simple and things will flow. There is no wrong or right way...simply because you are the host of your own event...you organize it in a way that's more condusive for you, hubby, venue, guests, etc.) With that being said, It truly depends on how you want to do it. I like M1ssJ timeline. For us, we felt like doing everything all within the first hour which was the best for us. We did not want to have to start eating then stop to cut the cake. Stop the dancing to do the toasts, etc. It definitely gave us more time to dance and spend time with guests and enjoy the photo booth! So here is what we did: *Wedding Party Intros: Groom parents, Brides parents, Matrons & best men (we only had MOH and Best Men...no brides maids or groom's men), Flower girls + broom carrier.   *Intro of Bride & Groom *First Dance *Mother-son/Father-daughter dance (after hubby and I danced, DJ moved on to our parents dance song. We got them from their seats and brought them on the dance floor and danced...of course we didn't do the whole song) *Cake Cutting (we easily moved on to the cake for the cake cutting) Took pics, cut cake, etc. We didn't have the wedding party to stand around to take pics...just us two.  *Blessing & Dinner *We did not do any toasts. But I would put it while people are eating. That way they can pay attention while they are eating or being served...I guess it depends on if you will have buffet style or sit down meal.  *Dancing *Our thank you to all the guests were at the end. I was feeling good and basically just took the mic...this was not planned LOL! We did not do a garter or bouquet toss. Our photo booth was opened during cocktail hour which was while we took our pictures outside before we were introduced for the reception. During cocktail hour (which probably wasn't even an hour) the bar was open and we had passed hors d'oeuvres. Hope this helps. I have a timeline of events but it is very detailed. I'm sure it may be too late to even put this together as it may stress you out more. But I do have it if anyone wants the template. If you have any questions, feel free to ask. Cha <strong>FYI: MrsSmith2Be is a wedding coordinator/event's planner. I'm not positive, but I think either she is in ATL or her wedding is in ATL. Maybe you can chat with her and see if she can be of some assistance</strong>. Cha
Posted by CreoleBride30[/QUOTE]

Yep that's me!