am i being too hard on myself (rant)

mrswac58

Hi ladies! So i'm a couple weeks from the 9 month mark and i just don't feel like i'm getting enough done.I've been caught up with work stuff and so has everyone else. We do have our venue, dj , minister and wedding parties. That's really it. I've been trying to start on STD and invites but i get frustrated when it doesn't come out right. I gave myself a deadline to finish designing our std's. Well, i finished designing but one little fluke has set me back with it. IDK i guess its just a lot of little stuff. I didn't think about the details of planning going into this.

Honey and I still go back and forth on the Photography and video. He doesn't see the need for video and doesn't understand why it means so much to me. So he has been taken off of the search for that. Even though I'm pretty sure he wasn't looking anyway. lol Everytime  I talk to a vendor they say " we are booking quick since its wedding season, so you should hurry" I dont wanna be stuck without.

My mom is paying for most of the wedding with help from my sis and bro in law and maybe my dad. Unfortunately, her aunt passed recently so my mom has been helping her uncle with everything  since they didn't have children.With that, work, church and all her other obligations, I just been feeling like I'm on the back burner (understandably so)

Time seems to be moving a lot faster all of a sudden and I'm afraid it's beginning to get away from me. Am I being to hard on myself?Anyone else ever feel like that?

Thanks for reading

Fabbiegirl

I think you are being a bit hard on yourself.  As far as the STD's, don't let a little fluke set you back.  If it frustrates you, put it down, and come back to it a little bit later. 

With the photog/video process, your FI and you should do some consultations together since he may not be doing exactly what needs to be done.  lol.  Also, show him some really good wedding videos, so he can get an idea of why it is so important to you.

I hope I help some.

M1ssJ

You're being hard on yourself but you've also had a little jolt of reality. Move forward and don't look back set your self 2 week goals and get it done. You dont want your family to have to pay more because you start rushing at the end or don't have time to do your homework in comparing vendors. Yay for getting the biggies out of the way, now avoid stress by getting the rest done!

mrswac58

thanks ladies for the advice. I'm off today and tomorrow so i'm gonna get on the ball. I'm visiting honey in milwaukee so maybe we can do some things together.

I have shown him some videos. One even brought him to tears but he still said no. Its all about the money for him. I have given up. My family is gonna make sure we have it because they understand what it means to me.He will just meet those vendors when we get to az. It was to much of a hassle. He doesn't mind having those things, but doesn't wanna pay for it. His whole stand on it makes no sense but i'm not gonna continue to press the issue.

eagles347

If you already knew exactly what vendors you wanted and weren't willing to compromise, you might need to worry. However, since you seem flexible, I'd say you are being hard on yourself because contrary to what we may have been led to believe, "IT DON'T TAKE ALL DAY TO DO NOTHING," as my DH says. I left the incorrect grammar on purpose for emphasis. 9 months is plenty of time to plan a wedding and you have plenty of help here. As a matter of fact, you may find some help with those invitations and save-the-dates on this board. Lots of ladies here have cranked out some beautiful work!

I have a friend that got engaged on Valentine's Day and was married the same year on June 5th...beautiful too. Another friend got engaged on Christmas and had her wedding on April 16th...also beautiful. Neither was rolling in dough and neither hired a planner. It can be done...nicely!