Ridiculous Brother

amberlynned

Hey Ladies,

A quick recap: my brother wants to be a preacher but is not what I would want in a spiritual leader. He offered to marry DH & me and after much drama, DH & I said no. We had numerous reasons, but the 2 largest reasons why we did't choose him is because he doesnt understand us spiritually as a couple, and because he wouldn't do the ceremony as we wanted & called it a "script"

Well, post wedding he tells me that we gave a "religious clown" the script  and that the pastor we chose pronounced my name as "Aumbuh" (because he has an old black southern preacher accent). I started second guessing my wedding ceremony. And no one would tell you the truth after the wedding's over so the people that I have asked have said that it was beautiful. But now I just don't know.

Now I know my brother is an as*hole because he actually complained about not having a speech at the reception. Since when does the borther-of-the-bride have a speech? OMG.

I guess I am asking if I should even trip over his opinions about the pastor or the ceremony. I hate how other people can make you doubt yourself.

TIA

dovealove3

I would not worry to much about it. Life has taught me that someone will always have an opinion. I always pray that God would allow me to do my best and what is pleasing to Him and I don't worry about what others have to say.

MrsDorris2be

Girl, tell your brother to go somewhere and sit down!!! Sounds to me that he's  just mad because you didn't let him officiate your ceremony. Let me just ask you a question: During your ceremony, when you were looking into your husband's eyes, saying your vows and listening to the words of the preacher, did you have any thoughts at all that the ceremony was not what you wanted it to be? If the answer is no, then you already have your answer and again I say, tell your brother to get somewhere and sit down!!!

red_980

I hate that mess! Why be negative when two people have decided to join in sacred union. Your brother needs to keep his negativity to himself.

cincy2011

Don't sweat what your brother is saying - if you and your DH were satisfied with your wedding ceremony, that's all that counts!! 

tyboyd

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[QUOTE]Girl, tell your brother to go somewhere and sit down!!! Sounds to me that he's  just mad because you didn't let him officiate your ceremony. Let me just ask you a question: During your ceremony, when you were looking into your husband's eyes, saying your vows and listening to the words of the preacher, did you have any thoughts at all that the ceremony was not what you wanted it to be? If the answer is no, then you already have your answer and again I say, tell your brother to get somewhere and sit down!!!
Posted by MrsDorris2be[/QUOTE]

What ^^^ said!

aricherry

You have me dying laughing about how he said the preacher was saying your name.  Anywho, I wouldnt let it worry me.  Just like PP said, someone will always have an opinion so it doesnt matter.  A little off subject but yrs ago when my grandma (mom's mom) my grandmother (dad's mom) came to the funeral.  The service was very nice and elegant but it was long.  When my mom asked my grandmother what she thought of the service she said "uh! It was too long!"  She said this to a lady who had just lost her mother.  I said that to say, no matter what the situation, you will ALWAYS have a HATER.  Who cares! I am sure it was beautiful.

amberlynned

thank you ladies!!! I know you're right. I just need to be happy that DH & I loved our ceremony. Because thats all that really matters.

And Aricherry, you have a good point. I can't believe she would say something like that! What is wrong with the world???

aricherry

Lol I had to chalk it up to my grandmother being old.  What was your brother's excuse? But oh well he is your brother and it is what it is. Pray for him and keep it moving. 

MAGNUM06

Girl, tell your brother to go somewhere and sit down!!! Sounds to me that he's  just mad because you didn't let him officiate your ceremony. Let me just ask you a question: During your ceremony, when you were looking into your husband's eyes, saying your vows and listening to the words of the preacher, did you have any thoughts at all that the ceremony was not what you wanted it to be? If the answer is no, then you already have your answer and again I say, tell your brother to get somewhere and sit down!!!

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Your ceremony was fine.. and what the most important part is.... it had significance to you and your new husband..... Brother is just SALTY!!!!  So unattractive for a man of the "cloth"!!!!