Sorry, I had to delete and post again. Something happened with the format of the first post.Here's some background. Fiance (R) is Indian. I'm not. His parents have threatened to disown him if he marries a non-Indian woman. They've been making this threat long before I met him, so it isn't me personally they have a problem with, just my ethnic background.We haven't told his family about our engagement yet because I'm trying to postpone his losing them as long as possible. He lost touch with most of the extended family for various reasons years ago. He has no contact with any family in India and little contact with any family in the States outside of his parents, younger brother, and one aunt (dad's sister). His brother, he says, expects us to get married and won't cut contact with him.His parents and aunt, however, have told him numerous times that should he choose to marry a non-Indian woman, he will be "dead to them." I cannot for the life of me fathom how anyone could actually give up on family, especially for this, but there's nothing I can do to stop it from happening. He says he won't change his decision to marry me, and that their reaction won't bother him, but I suspect it hurts him more than he's willing to let on.His parents and brother are friendly enough with me, we've spent some time together, but the parents are not going to back down on this. His mom and I get along pretty well. I've helped her with some sewing projects and she actually put henna in my hair a while back, which I'm told is NOT something a typical Indian mom would do for a girl her son is seeing casually. Her issue isn't with me as a person, it's with my non-Indian background. I have not met the rest of the family, as most of them live in New York or India. I have been more than willing to assimilate to many things. I was all for an Indian wedding, including the several days of preparations beforehand; he was actually the one who said he didn't want one! "Indian wedding ceremonies bore me," he confessed last month. "I fell asleep at my cousin's wedding. It's just the parties before that I like."Religion isn't really an issue here; his parents grew up Hindu, and R and his brother were raised Hindu. His mom converted to Christianity not long ago, his dad and brother haven't expressed any particular religious affiliation, and R is agnostic (so am I).So far as a loss of culture is concerned, R is about as un-Indian as an Indian can get. He was born and raised in Queens and has few ties to the Indian culture. He knows I'd be willing to do whatever it takes, within reason, to keep him happy, including accept, understand, and adopt his culture as my own. How do we handle this situation? We'd planned to invite his brother to the wedding. Should we extend an invitation to the rest of the family as well? On the one hand, they'll likely ignore it. On the other hand, these are the people who raised him (and did a darn good job, at that; he's amazing) and I don't believe they will be able to just turn their backs on him without feeling SOMEthing. What's the best way to deal with this?S