How did you and your fiance meet?

SonaliPop

Just curious as to how all the ladies met their soon-to-be husbands?

We met at a wedding in London! He was my cousin's best man in his wedding (they are best friends) and after keeping in touch and meeting up when I went back to London for a 3 month trip later, we've been together ever since!

HisBelovedOne

We met in a human development evening class in September 2008. I was immediately interested, but because he's four years younger than I am, I denied that attraction for the first two months that we knew each other. I'd never dated anyone so much younger and I wasn't really sure I was okay with it. I'm told that this frustrated him for the entire duration; a friend I met through him told me that he griped every other day: "This girl just will NOT let me get close!" 

He wasn't very obvious with his interest, though. His flirting was there, but very subtle; I wasn't entirely convinced that he liked me until he got sick one week and blurted it out in his cold-medicine-induced haze. I finally admitted my own interest the next day when we were texting. Two days later he invited me to a drum circle on a local beach and then we went to dinner and the park, and we've been inseperable since.

SonaliPop

Ahh! Adorable!

Yeah, we met at an Indian wedding which was stuffy and uncomfortable considering it was my first cousin's and I am the next oldest in the family (not the mention the first girl born in 7 generations) so the pressure was full force for me to meet someone. I'm more laid back and western in that if I meet someone, I meet them and I'll figure it out myself - marriage was not the intention, happiness was.

If someone told me then that I'd be in a long distance relationship with somene who is more traditional than me and that I'd be moving to another country to be with this man, I would have laughed and ordered a martini. But I couldn't be happier...although there are kinks to work out, it's been worth it.

Hinaj

Ahh You guys have super cute stories. 

FI and I met in high school when I was a Sophomore and he was junior and even when we were friends we had the love and hate relationship and just couldn't get along in public.  He always had to disagree with me and vice versa.  But from that first year we were inseparable, not be choice either we just ended up having some of the same classes and part of the newspaper and other after school activities.

 The following year, same thing happened with our schedule and I heard that he likes someone but he would never tell me who, except the girl was in one of his classes.  I think I had gone through every girl I could think of that we mutually know (I know I know I was really stupid not to realize the obvious as you all are thinking).  Since my parents moved  closer to his side of the neighborhood.  He and I started walking home after school and in one of those cold Chicago nights walking home I was bugging him to tell me and there was just so much snow on the side walk that we had to file in a single file line with him behind me and he said  Do you really want to know? I said, Yes and he said, its you.  I said, Ok. 

Yes Ladies I made the equivalent of Thank You when someone says I love you.  I avoided him for the next few days as much as I could because I did not want to lose a really good friend over what might be nothing.  But he finally confronts me and asked I should at least tell him yes or no.   But in the conversation to follow, he says I love you and when he realized what he had said, he tried to take it back and said lovED you.  And I was like you fell in and out of love with me already.

After a couple week of thinking and whatnot I agreed to go out with him and at that time he told we would be married in eight years, how many kids we will have, basically our whole life.  He says he just knew I was it when he looked into my eyes. 

Sorry Ladies for taking so much of your time, but I guess I am missing him.  He is away sailing somewhere in South America and I am still not used to him being gone.  I guess I started reminiscing the old days. 

SonaliPop

I know how you feel, I miss mine, too! He was just here last month from London for a 12 day stay and it went by so fast.

Hinaj

Bells - I love how the two of you met.  I have been meaning to tell my FSIL about you two because she doesn't believe that those site works at all.  But now I have prove!!! 

Sonali - Time flys by, when you are having fun.  I did not realize how true that saying is until I was in a long distance relationship. 

jnsaini

Such wonderful stories,Bells (meg) love your website!!
My Fiancee and I meet through his friend, she sent me a message that he wanted to send himself, I responded saying I was dating someone and I am one man woman. He responded so sweetly, saying its ok..let me know if that ever changes.A year later I was single, and messaged him back saying I was single...like fate would have it he responded same day and over time I found out he lived right across the street from me. We dated and saw each other a lot,after a month into dating he told he had to move in another month to Chicago, I was having doubts about dating long distance and and tried to break it off. But he had a lot of confidence in the relationship and it worked out so well, I fell head over heels in love with him over time and now fly often to Chicago, like its my backyard. You guys got me all emotional talking about this

nicky

SonaliPop

Ah! I love hearing about this!

Long distance is hard. It really is. But I am so thankful for all the technology that we have (like Skype) to keep us in such close contact. It is difficult being so far apart but at the end of the day, we're learning about the tough stuff and how to treasure our time together when we do have it, even though not all our time together is sunshine and roses! We have learned to communicate so much better - when you do that all day and can't see eachother or go out together, you have to rely on that, and I'm really grateful.

Ah, now I'm getting emotional, too.

Hinaj

Nicky - Thats awesome!!!  I usually flew out of Chicago to see him.  Will you be moving to Chicago after the wedding? 

jnsaini

Yea Sonali I hear ya, webcam is on my list next lol. Its been 2 years now flying back and forth to Chicago.Yea you do miss a lot of things together and hope that the day you live together you will really treasure it!

Hinaj,
I do fly out there often, our engagement photo infact is scheduled for April 24th so I am flying out there soon for that. I cant wait to do that since we couldnt plan most of the wedding together, it will give him a chance to be a part of it too. The sad part is he has another year left in chicago after the wedding and he doesnt want to stay there after that year, so I fear that me leaving my dream job to move there for a year only is going to be a bad idea.After that year, he plans on moving to DC metro area, where am residing. So yea thats another dilema we have going on, on top of the wedding planning stress...I will be flying a lot to Chicago in the next yr till then.

lildevi15

long distance was the absolute worst. . .my FI and I met when I studied abroad in Germany (seven years ago now!). . . we both thought it was just going to be a summer fling, but now we're getting married )  We were long distance until October 2008 when he was finally able to get a work visa and move here.

jnsaini - you do need to get on skype!  It's so wonderful.

jnsaini

Thanks Devi
I know I need to skype!
So good to hear you guys were able to work it out so he could move here! my BIL is also german, such a sweet guy!! I couldnt ask for a better BIL

nicky

lildevi15

I hear about German/Indian couples ALL THE TIME.  It makes me wish someone would do a sociology study on German/Indian couples.

raangoli

Aww everyone has such sweet stories! I love to hear how people met

Our story is not as sweet or cute as everyone else's. We met because we worked together

We're both in IT/IT-related fields and we were on the same application team. I was the business analyst and he was the application developer. Boy was that fun, haha! But we started out as friends first and started dating almost 2 years after we first met.

It wasn't easy at first since he isn't desi, but in the end it all worked out and we have our formal desi engagement ceremony tomorrow!