Destinations weddings for South Asians

MrsBM

Hey Girls
So...if you could go back and plan your wedding differently...would you do a destination desi wedding?

By destination I mean, doing your wedding at a resort in the carribean (Mexico or Cuba etc)?

I'm sure we've all seen the western/christian weddings that are done on the beach but I'm now seeing a trend were Sikh and Hindu weddings are happening at those same resorts...

What do you think?

raangoli

I would totally do a destination wedding. We even talked about doing one for 5 minutes. Until we realized that it's not an option because of different constraints with our families.

I would love to get married on a beach in the caribbean. Maybe in another lifetime

Would you have done one?

MrsBM

I would like to...but there are some 'issues' that come up

- family constraint - like you said....majority of my family (from indian/uk) were able to get visas but i dont knwo if they would be able to for the carribean and north america (assumin they stay with us and then travel again for the wedding)

- the heat!  I dunno if I could sit there for 2+ hrs in teh heat with heavy clothes on

- the pundit...would he fly down too?

- the vendors (video and photog)...I think you'd def need a destination wedding planner to help

The idea seems really awesome...but when i start to think about it logically / logistically ...it's not so appealing...I dunno :$

raangoli

I think that there used to be a SA Knottie who had a destination wedding in Jamaica. That sounded awesome and I think she said she had done it because they wanted a smaller wedding.

I think you would have to fly your vendors from near you if you really wanted them, but I've learned that there are desis everywhere, so it might not be so hard after all to get a pandit there. Who knows.

Cost wise I wonder if it would be about the same though after you flew your vendors down and just had fewer guests. All things to think about, I guess.

Oh to dream

kpwedkk

I would love to have one, if I was having a small private, less than 20 people kind of a shindig, but our families are huge...

lildevi15

FI and I REALLY want(ed) a destination wedding for immediate family only. . .but my parents weren't having it.  In retrospect we should've paid for it ourselves so we could've had the wedding we wanted.  Oh well.

rsmehta

Ditto to the above messages.  We too desperately wanted a DW.  We even went to Jamaica and found our dream resort and met with a wedding planner.  We then got the veto when we pitched it to my parents.  His parents were totally cool with it.  In retrospect, I'm glad we are not having it though because a lot of the important people I would want there would not have been able to make it.  And hard to believe it, but the cost was coming out to more than a wedding in the U.S.  Now my best friend is having a DW, so I am living vicariously through her!  It's funny because planning a non-Indian wedding is SOOO much easier than planning an Indian one.  Anyone ever wish we didn't have to do all the extra stuff and just kept it simple? 

MrsBM

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_south-asian-weddings_destinations-weddings-south-asians?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:430Discussion:3782bcdf-5749-4a58-b226-da9b574c18a7Post:a1114db9-0030-4707-813e-9fd238ee3274">Re: Destinations weddings for South Asians</a>:
[QUOTE]Anyone ever wish we didn't have to do all the extra stuff and just kept it simple? 
Posted by rsmehta[/QUOTE]

I don't know if I wanted to forego an indian wedding, but i def want to experience the 'simple' westernized wedding. 

Maybe I could if hubby and I decide to do a renew our vows or something...I think it would be kind of romantic to do it on a beach :)

raangoli

Ahh a simple wedding is my dream! But I have to say that I am sort of lucky in that I am not having a big mehndi or sangeet, or a garba so those are two less events to plan. For that I am seriously grateful!