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Sweetheart Tables

SonaliPopSonaliPop member
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Are any of you sitting with your FIs at sweetheart tables at your reception? I have never been to an Indian wedding where the bride and groom sit at one. Mostly, I have been to one where a bride and groom sit at the head table with their families (Moms, Dads, siblings).

BF is not sure about this idea. Nor am I. I like the idea of being able to sit alone as man and wife, but I am not sure how receptive other people would be to it. I think a lot of Indian or South Asian people I know would find that it excludes the family or is inconsiderate.

What do you guys think?
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  • Bhanu&AnujBhanu&Anuj member
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    edited December 2011
    It's actually a newer trend that I've seen in desi weddings here in canada. (Actually only once before)...  FI and I are doing a sweetheart table. 

    I think a loveseat is something that is done a lot with desi weddings.  I don't really like it for myself and my hubby to be...
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  • SonaliPopSonaliPop member
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    edited December 2011
    So how do you seat your parents and family members?

    Do you seat your parents / siblings and his parents / siblings together, then?
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  • kpwedkkkpwedkk member
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    edited December 2011
    We had a sweetheart table - I couldn't figure out why they put us up on the stage, but I figured it was so that everyone could see us.

    For our familes - we put immediate parents, and aunts and uncles at the main tables, and our inlaws, and immediate sibling families at the main tables.  All of my siblings were seated with tables with immediate cousins (1st cousins).

    So we sat seperate from families.

    Parents and my brothers were seated at seperate tables.




    This was looking directly up at the stage.




    I've been to several weddings where the new Mr and Mrs sit at their own table, and everyone else sits at tables.  It's pretty neat :)  You get to see what's going on, because you are the center of attention (at least until the dancing starts)


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  • Bhanu&AnujBhanu&Anuj member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_south-asian-weddings_sweetheart-tables?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:430Discussion:562cb9b1-4331-45da-a0bf-70263e3b668cPost:ba4d8d2c-940e-4a9f-9bd4-a1780bf9e8ef">Re: Sweetheart Tables</a>:
    [QUOTE]So how do you seat your parents and family members? Do you seat your parents / siblings and his parents / siblings together, then?
    Posted by SonaliPop[/QUOTE]


    My mom has been looking into guest tables...she's been brainstorming the idea of having only parents sitting with parents, cousins and yonger generations are sitting together...if that makes sense

    Like my parents are sitting with my dads brothers and sisters, and my mom's side has a table also...and then the kids of my parents siblings (lol my cousins) are sitting at a seperate table...

    that is what it is right now....not sure if my mom will change it

    As for my FI's side...they are doing their guest tables themselves..so I'm not sure...
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  • HinajHinaj member
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    edited December 2011
    Since both ceremony and reception are in the evening and a day apart and we are serving dinner.  I was thinking doing a head table with family for the ceremony and have a sweetheart's table for the reception. 

    But usually with head table, the family is so busy with all the other stuff with circulating the guests and all that there is not that much time that all of them sit there, at least that is what I have seen, and I have gone to plenty of weddings with head tables and most of the time bride and groom were there alone. 

    I also think my sisters would like to eat wither her friends than with us, LOL.  so I am thinking about changing the head table, but no ideas yet.  Sweetheart tables are very popular and you can always seat your family members in front or closest to you by reserving those table. 
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  • raangoliraangoli
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    edited December 2011
    I think we will be doing a sweeheart table. I don't like the idea of "being on display" but it makes more sense this way. Otherwise I think the seating would look lop-sided and since I have OCD, I won't be able to stand that :)

    But like Hina said, a lot of the time the family doesn't sit all at the table since they are busy elsewhere and I'd hateit to look empty on either side of us.
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  • jnsainijnsaini
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    edited December 2011
    Yea we will be doing a sweetheart table too, with a couch setting. FI didnt want to do family head table incase his family doesnt show up or are not happy to be there he said I rather have regular tables for family, which I thought was a good idea!
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  • Bhanu&AnujBhanu&Anuj member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_south-asian-weddings_sweetheart-tables?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:430Discussion:562cb9b1-4331-45da-a0bf-70263e3b668cPost:681faaad-2637-49e3-bd85-2ce8fb64f983">Re: Sweetheart Tables</a>:
    [QUOTE]...the family is so busy with all the other stuff with circulating the guests and all that there is not that much time that all of them sit there,
    Posted by Hinaj[/QUOTE]

    Thats very true
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  • rajkumarirajkumari
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    edited December 2011
    We sat with just our parents at a rectangular table.
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  • Knats_ManushakKnats_Manushak member
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    edited December 2011
    We are an intercultural couple. So we are doing Sweetheart table plus the god father and god mother. Everyone else will be at tables close to us. The seating is only for the 30min that it takes to get the meal started and then no one pays attention to any of it when the dancing starts.
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