Update

HisBelovedOne

Really really really long story short... Kidlet, Dog and I have moved back in with my mother for the time being. It got to the point where I felt we needed to live separately to work out our problems. It's nothing so bad that absolutely cannot be fixed, but we're way past the place where we can work it out without non-biased third-party input. So we're working on finding affordable counseling, but we're looking at probably 6-12 months of work, which means that we likely won't be living together when the baby arrives in April.

It sucks. And it hurts. And I don't think I have cried so much in a very, very long time. And that's about all I want to say about it.

raangoli

Oh no, I am so sorry Beloved! I hope that you can find the counseling that you both need to work through this.

I'm sending you a super hug! Hang in there!

SonaliPop

We're all here for you. If you ever need to talk, PM me and I'll send you my details. I'm praying for you both and I'm so glad you're getting counseling. Thinking of you. Please let us know how you are and take care of yourself!

MrsBM

Hi Beloved
I'm glad that you are both getting counceling...I definitely think an outside opinion can always be helpful.

But I know not having the support of your man during your pregnancy can be hard.  We are all here for you whenever you need the support!

Hinaj

Hi Beloved,

I am so sorry to hear that, having FI around this time would have been a tremendous help to you.  But its good that you see that both of your problems can be worked out with additional help.  I think you took the right step even if it was hard.  We are all here for you, if you need us. 

DFWIndian

Hope things work out for the best. Do what you feel is best and we are here to listen if you need it.

HisBelovedOne

Thanks, friends. I feel a whole lot better this morning, after having a chance to talk with R about where to go from here. He was very hurt yesterday, as I expected, but I saw him this morning before he went to work and he didn't stop hugging me the whole time.

I know we can fix it. It may not even take as long as I had thought originally, but we won't know for sure till we get into therapy and see what progress needs to be made and how much work is ahead of us. I've got a short list of places and people to call and have gotten a few responses back. Most non-church private sessions are way out of our affordability range (upwards of $100 per session, and at a session a week that's over $400 a month that we don't have), but he's okay with seeing a church counselor if it means that we get to be a family again sooner.

So I'll get to making phone calls and trying to settle in best I can at my mom's. It's a tight fit; they rearranged after I moved out so now everything has to be re-rearranged, in an already cluttered house. It's only temporary, though.