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Not SIL this time...

temurlangtemurlang member
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I spoke with FIL last night.  He and MIL are coming to NY in June for his work.  They will be there through November.  They wanted us to go there, but DH cannot take so much time off, and he asked them to come here instead.

FIL told me that they are now planning to go to my friend's parents' home (in a 3rd state) instead of visiting us.  My friend's parents don't know about this plan.  They are from India but have been in the US since they came for school back in the 70's and are pretty Americanized.  I don't think they are expecting my ILs they don't know to drop in on them for several weeks!

Will my friend's parents ever speak to me again?
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Re: Not SIL this time...

  • raangoliraangoli
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    edited December 2011
    So your in laws want to stay at a friend of your's parents' house that they don't know?

    I can see visiting for a day, with you there to make the introduction, but to set up shop there for a few weeks is seriously crazy (for lack of a better word.)

    Does this mean they aren't going to come stay with you after all?
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  • temurlangtemurlang member
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    edited December 2011
    They have met them once (I guess they really liked them).  My friend's parents live in a different state, so even a brief visit would be a weekend.

    And yes, it would be instead of staying with us, which I admit is a big plus side, but doesn't quite outweigh the embarrassment.  My aunt also pointed out that these people have a really nice home and with my MIL's destructive abilities the visit can't go well.
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  • SonaliPopSonaliPop member
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    edited December 2011
    Your in laws seem...interesting.
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  • raangoliraangoli
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    edited December 2011
    Oh no, I forgot about the destructive tendencies. Is there any way to suggest to them that it's not the best idea? Maybe your husband can handle that?
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  • DFWIndianDFWIndian
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    edited December 2011
    Yea I would talk to your husband about this and him talk to his parents. It seems strange for them to stay weeks with someone they hardly know. It also seems very rude for them to just assume the other family will be ok with it.
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  • temurlangtemurlang member
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    edited December 2011
    DH is not going to handle it.  He says it's the other family's problem and since they are Indian they must be used to long stays by houseguests.  While they are from India and I assume are therefore used to the idea of relatives coming for a long time, they are WAY more American than DH (who I would say is only Americanized as far as his clothes).  He said that "Indian immigrants love having any Indians stay with them"... they may love close friends and relatives staying, I don't know about their daughter's friend's ILs they met once.

    I told my friend.  Her parents are intelligent, and hopefully with warning they can be resourceful enough to manage this Undecided
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