Kids at your wedding?

MrsBM

Hi Everyone

Based on another thread about invites....Do you want kids at your wedding?

I didn't really care either way, but I realized that too many kids at the wedding can't be good due to safety reasons.  We were watching a part of our wedding reception video and found that kids were running behind our head table/background set up and it got tugged at many times. Additionally, if they run around where the lights they may run into them (those lights are dangerously hot!)

If you do have kids, make sure you have some activty for them.  It will keep them from getting hurt and also keep them occupied.

DFWIndian

We have too many kids in our families not to have them. Luckily they were pretty good during the Formal Engagement so I'm hoping for the best at the wedding too.

HisBelovedOne

We'd always planned on kids at the wedding. Too many in the family for them NOT to be there! I'm the eldest of 12 grandkids and half of the 12 are under 16. And I have Kidlet, who's five, and another baby on the way (yeesh, 3 1/2 weeks out!). Plus the kids on his side of the family, and the kids that some of our friends have. So when we get around to the wedding (things have improved since the compatibility assessment and meeting with the counselor regularly, but we're not at a point where we're planning the wedding again), there will definitely be kids involved.

raangoli

We had kids at our wedding since both H and I have small nieces and nephews. They were great and got along well and danced. The running around only really started at the end of the night when it was just family left, so it was ok. Surprisingly, a lot of our guests chose not to bring their children, which worked out too I guess.

trueleo818

WHEN I DO have my wedding, I'll be having kids there. I have too many nieces and nephews and it would weird w/o them. Plus, I plan on having a kids corner. Hopefully

temurlang

I didn't really want kids, but I a lot of my close friends have infants, and I honestly don't mind babies because they don't run around.  My mom was really adamant about not having kids because she felt that people use it as an excuse to not watch their own kids during the event, so we didn't invite kids.  Some of my friends and relatives called and asked if they could/should bring their kids.  I told people it would be formal but they could bring babies.  Mostly they didn't because I think a lot of people like a night out, but the ones with little babies did and it was fine.

DH's friends ALL RSVPed with their kids.  He made a lot of calls, but a couple of kids still turned up.  My family is very much the type where children are "seen and not heard" and the kids in our family are really well behaved.  DH's family is similar.  His friends are very relaxed, though, and tend to let heir kids run around screaming.  Although the running around started late in the evening, my extended family was completely appalled (and yes, as the bride I got the blame).

At our ceremony in India one kid decided to stand behind/between us.  SIL went absolutely nuts because he was getting in all the pictures!  We also didn't really want random kids we don't know in all our pics.

I think the main problem with kids is when there are differences in expectations.  DH's and my families are so much stricter than most and they're not that tolerant of kids running around.

Rainbow17

Hell no!  No kids.  Family is different though.  I'd want my lil cousins there, but I only have 2 lil cuzins so thats easy for me to say.

andamu

Yeah, I really don't mind little kids that are part of the family or who are close to us.

I'm not going to lie, FI and I tried to talk his parents out of inviting all of their friends' children (ranging in age from about 8 to 18) because it's a lot of people to invite who don't even know us.  They pretty much told us it was non-negotiable, and we didn't think it was the hill we wanted to die on.  Luckily it's not that many people.

temurlang

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_south-asian-weddings_kids-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:430Discussion:7df4d728-b7a9-4004-9410-dbb787e13ab8Post:612b0465-d50b-4ee5-bdc1-52faf725f79b">Re: Kids at your wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]Yeah, I really don't mind little kids that are part of the family or who are close to us. I'm not going to lie, FI and I tried to talk his parents out of inviting all of their friends' children (<font color="#0000ff">ranging in age from about 8 to 18</font>) because it's a lot of people to invite who don't even know us.  They pretty much told us it was non-negotiable, and we didn't think it was the hill we wanted to die on.  <font color="#0000ff">Luckily it's not that many people.</font>
Posted by andamu[/QUOTE]

This totally makes a difference!  Teenagers are like adults in behavior, and I think if it were 6 kids it's one thing.  If we had invited all the kids, we would have had another 100 people, between the ages of 3 and 10!  I just picture chaos thinking about it!  And there's no way we could have afforded it.

kpwedkk

We had about 40 kiddies at our wedding, ranging from newborn to 18, and seriously, despite what all may think, when you are wrapped up in the rigarmaroo of all of what's going on, that whirlwind of love, you won't even think about if there were kids there or not!

On my side alone, we have too many nieces, nephews, and friends with kiddies.  Do you know the hassle of trying to find a babysitter? especially if you are from out of town??

AquarianDragon

I have no opinion on the kids. There will be some.... most of them are older aged kids... pre-teens and teens, so I'm not worried about them getting in too much trouble. I don't recall the kids being ill-haved at the other weddings, and my cousins kids will be fine. Most of my friends don't have kids.

temurlang

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_south-asian-weddings_kids-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:430Discussion:7df4d728-b7a9-4004-9410-dbb787e13ab8Post:a5df064d-3ced-4334-9e7a-d3cfef6d71c1">Re: Kids at your wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]We had about 40 kiddies at our wedding, ranging from newborn to 18, and seriously, despite what all may think, when you are wrapped up in the rigarmaroo of all of what's going on, that whirlwind of love, you won't even think about if there were kids there or not! On my side alone, we have too many nieces, nephews, and friends with kiddies.  <font color="#000080">Do you know the hassle of trying to find a babysitter? especially if you are from out of town??</font>
Posted by kpwedkk[/QUOTE]

That's what I thought.  But the only people who brought kids from out of town had an infant.  Most of them said it was too expensive and too much hassle to fly with kids.  The ones who brought their kids were local.  I kinda believe the mom's claim that no one will watch her kids, though, because they are really bad.