Since we're both in two different countries with family and friends who may not / most probably not all be able to travel back and forth for our ceremonies, we are in a bit of a pickle.
I want us each to be able to have people we love at our weddings. If we have the wedding here, we want the reception there so that his family and friends can also make it. The majority of my family (and his) is in the UK, anyway. We are avoiding having the wedding in the UK because of all sorts of issues. We want to keep the wedding small and if it's there, we will surely have all those guests who are distant relatives that we wouldn't normally have if it was in the States.
BF wants to keep both wedding / reception on the same day in one place becuase he is worried about the long distance planning, but I want to keep it fair and make sure that neither of us is alone on our wedding day.
Maybe we could do the engagement and the reception in the UK and the wedding in the US? Does anyone have a better or different idea?
I don't want to miss out on sharing my big day with my family friends and my friends here and family here and I don't want him to be celebrating the wedding without his family and his boys because they can't afford to travel. I'm just looking for a compromise. My Mom has said she understands and would definitely have one big event or two there so that his family and friends can also be a part of it.