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Post-wedding affection

SonaliPopSonaliPop member
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I have a cousin who refers to his wife as 'honey' constantly - in front of all of our relatives, young and old. He loves it and it annoys a lot of the elders in our family, but they're married, so nobody says much apart from illustrating how annoying they think it is.

This brings me to the question: Do you and your hubby refer to eachother by petnames or nicknames in front of anyone? How about physical affection? Do you share pecks on the cheeks or hold hands in front of your in-laws?

I refuse to be a newlywed who lives with her in-laws who DOESN'T get any love. Sure, we're not going to make out in front of anybody, but I don't think that we're going to strut around pecking eachother goodbye or holding hands. Hell, if we're all living together, everybody has to adjust.


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  • jnsainijnsaini
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    edited December 2011
    I think a lot of it depends on your audience..for example infront of my sis I would give a kiss on the cheek to FI and maybe chill on his lap. But if its my parents or his, even after wedding we wouldnt do more than hold hands sometimes ..and in public I NEVER make out with him, maybe a quick kiss at the airport when we are parting but nothing that is more than a peck on the lips..I dont like public affection of some forms.
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  • SonaliPopSonaliPop member
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    edited December 2011
    Er, I meant I don't think we're going to avoid an occasional peck on the cheek and holding hands. We'll be married. Everybody has to adjust. Sure, there will be no long passionate kisses in front of everybody but by then, the jig will be up. We're certainly not relatives!
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  • SonaliPopSonaliPop member
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    edited December 2011
    Yeah, I'm not big on PDA either.
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  • HisBelovedOneHisBelovedOne
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    edited December 2011
    I rarely call him by his name. Frequently it's "baby," "honey," or "love."  We hold hands and hug and such. Nothing overt, but we aren't going to not touch, because that's how we show affection. In front of God and everybody, lol. I don't anticipate that that will change in the future.
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  • kavita85kavita85 member
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    edited December 2011
    We call each other "baby," but only in private. Now that I think about it, it sounds really silly. We never hold hands or kiss in front of either his parents or mine. I don't see things changing after we're married. After the Jewish ceremony, we want to have a quick peck, but probably just on the cheek..my Dad's family is very conservative and it would be a scandal if we kissed on the lips!
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  • Bhanu&AnujBhanu&Anuj member
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    edited December 2011
    I think people will have to adjust...but that doesn't mean I'm going to be all out.

    My parents are affectionate in front of me and my FI and even my FI's family...so I would be the same.

    Holding hands, kiss on the cheek, hug, arm around each other ... i think thats fair game....

    As for pet names... i have a funny story...one time i called my FIs cell phone... but his dad had just left the house and grabbed his phone by mistake...i called his cell... and I'm like "Baby...baby...can you hear me...baby"... its been a big joke since then....

    But other than that....his parents/my parents knows he call me jaan and honey and baby...etc... I love that!
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  • raangoliraangoli
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    edited December 2011
    We aren't affectionate in front of our families. It's just awkward and doesn't need to be on display. I actually fear what will happen at the wedding if people clink their glasses to get us to kiss during the reception! I hope no one does that!

    As for names, we have a ton that we use to call each other. I don't think we ever refer to each other by our given first names unless we are talking to a 3rd party. But mostly we call each other "boss" (like desi males call each other) in front of our families. It's kind of funny in a stupid way. I called FI "boss" in front of my brother's (desi) friend and he started cracking up, hah!
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  • HinajHinaj member
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    edited December 2011
    We are very affectionate when we are together. We are always holding hands, or his arm is around me, but in front of family, nothing of the sort.  I have nicknames for him, call him baby but in private and on the phone.

    But he won't even hold my hand or sit close to me when we are with family.  He gives looks if I actually sit next to him. LOL.  Its hilarious.  So after marriage, he is probably not going to be any more affectionate in front of his mom as he is now.  But I am okay with that.  
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  • kavita85kavita85 member
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    edited December 2011
    Haha, Raangoli, I love it that you call each other "Boss." I may have to do that from now on.
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  • Bhanu&AnujBhanu&Anuj member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_south-asian-weddings_post-wedding-affection?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:430Discussion:92075766-18ac-447b-85c7-a117bc77c17ePost:8d4e8716-432e-4c82-a742-5a86803116a1">Re: Post-wedding affection</a>:
    [QUOTE]Haha, Raangoli, I love it that you call each other "Boss." I may have to do that from now on.
    Posted by kavita85[/QUOTE]


    Lol i was thinking of doing the same thing!
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  • raangoliraangoli
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    edited December 2011
    Haha! I told FI I posted about our calling each other "boss" and we started cracking up at how silly it is. I highly recommend it :)
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  • Bhanu&AnujBhanu&Anuj member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_south-asian-weddings_post-wedding-affection?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:430Discussion:92075766-18ac-447b-85c7-a117bc77c17ePost:dac698c4-9a7b-4be0-a173-2468d9f5dcc4">Re: Post-wedding affection</a>:
    [QUOTE]Haha! I told FI I posted about our calling each other "boss" and we started cracking up at how silly it is. I highly recommend it :)
    Posted by raangoli[/QUOTE]


    So I tried it... he called and I'm like ...what's up boss...? he responded by calling me hot stuff...hahahahaha
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  • raangoliraangoli
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    edited December 2011
    @ Bhanu - that's hilarious, I love it! :)
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