Uphill Battle: Losses in Wedding Planning

SonaliPop

During the process of planning your weddings, where have you had to surrender?

In the guest list? Having a certain ceremony or tradition you didn't want to? Budget? Food?

Just curious.

For me, so far, even in talks, it is inviting people my family HAS to maintain relationships with...like my Dad's sister-in-law's family members! I don't know them very well, nor do I like them (or HER for that matter, but her invitation can't get lost in the mail!) Those certain Aunty and Uncle duos that my family and I do not like but who have invited us to their childrens functions over the years (the people who we NEVER call, see, or spend time with) are also on that list.

Bhanu&Anuj

I've surrendered in battles about guestlist fsure.  I found that if it was going to lead to an unecessary fight then I would just give in.

kpwedkk

Totally on the guest list - that's when we had 300+ people show up, we would just add to the catering - at least it wasn't from a hotel or something.

We had unnecessary fights on the decor, and the favors, and I just gave in on having two favors - one my mom could take credit for making, and the other that was specially us - diyas.

We stood our ground though when it came to the financials.  I paid for all of it, except for my h2b at the time's airfare for family, hotel and rental cars - he took care of that on his side.  This could have been a googlian dollar wedding, unless I put my foot down, and stamped around like a duck or somethng.

Hinaj

Ditto on the guest list, I don't think I would have invited more than half of the people they want me to invite since I probably haven't talked to them in years if not a decade.  LOL. But its alll about maintaining relationships.  They even wanted to invite all the in-laws for my all of my cousin spouses that are in Chicago.  I have 8 cousins and all are married!!!  I drew the line in that, that they can only invite the one family I am familliar with because we were invited to all of their kids weddings and such.  But that is it. 

Seriously, if left up to me, I would even invite my immediate cousins from my dad's side because I dislike them intensly and there is always drama when they are around.  I don't want to deal with that in my wedding, but of course my dad would not have that. 

What I am not compromising about with them is the location of the venue for ceremony and reception, I want it in downtown, they would rather have it in the suburbs which would be cheaper and it means they can invite even more people. 

kpwedkk

And about that guest list - my parents wanted to invite so many people - how many of you know everyone that attended your wedding - I could say about 95% I knew and we had a wedding crasher couple too!  :-O

Jeff and Deepthi

Mine is the guestlist too. My parents want to invite the whole church which is just not possible. We are also having that issue with the engagement. We both are from the same town so everyone will be at the wedding. There is no reason for a ton of people to be invited to both. If I had it my way only immediate family and our bridal party would be there! Like everyone said it's all about keeping people happy.

Plus, my mom wants EVERYTHING run by her. That's what my older sister did so she expects to do the same!! Really no, but I guess I have to.