Some of this may be repeated info, but I can't remember what :-/ Darn Baby Brain and all.
R and I have been talking and working things out. We've seen a counselor individually and will be starting couples counseling with that same person soon, and premarital counseling when we are ready. R has parenting classes beginning the end of February, and has been attending the childbirth classes with me in the meantime. He'll miss the last two because his class is on the same nights as mine, but that's ok. I take really good notes:)
I feel like he's made significant progress over the last few weeks and we have gotten a lot farther than we would have without help. R has been asking me to move back in and I've been hesitant to just jump right back into living together, given the nature of why I left in the first place. I spoke with the counselor about it, and he suggested that I should start moving back in slowly, starting with spending a few nights a week there, moving up to completely moving back in over a little time. So Kidlet and I will be spending two nights a week for a little while, and going from there. Hopefully we can get moved back in fully before the baby arrives in April, but I know better than to plan for things like that; we're taking it slowly because rushing it won't necessarily be any good.
So that's where we are.