South Asian Weddings

Roll Call

Who's got an upcoming shaadi?
Anyone have pictures for our viewing pleasure??
Favorite SA inspired blogs?
Anyone out there?
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Re: Roll Call

  • edited December 2011
    Ours is on May 30th too!  Engagement pics this weekend.  Our photographer blogs so hopefully I'll have something to post next week!
  • edited December 2011
    Ours isn't for a while - another year and almost nine months!  But that gives me plenty of time to research and plan and get everything done.
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  • edited December 2011
    That's great Bells and Lil miss sha.  May 30th is quickly approaching. :)
    Hisbelovedone- that's great that you have a lot of time to plan and enjoy your engagement. Your story in your bio is so sweet btw.

    I have no idea when my shaadi will be since we're waiting on a visa. We are planning a small wedding here in the States, and then will have a big, traditional wedding in Bangladesh.  I'm really excited about it.  Not knowing about the visa makes it hard though since it's impossible to plan anything until it is in hand.

  • edited December 2011
    Aw, thank you:)

    I hope everything works out with the visa situation. Have you gotten any planning done for the US wedding, or are you planning them together?
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  • edited December 2011
    I should have pictures soon, I got married on November 22nd, I still haven't sent my finali selections to my photographer. ( ya i know im slacking)...

    I hope I can help the desi brides in the tri state area with ideas and decor :)

    good luck ladies!
  • edited December 2011
    Congrats!!!  Pictures please!! ;)
  • edited December 2011
    How exciting! Congrats to Bells and Lil Miss Sha on their upcoming weddings! And to Naush on her November wedding! Oh and of course to HisBelovedOne, too!

    I hope your visa situation gets worked out soon, Mrs. Khan; I can't imagine the wait.

    I am really excited to start planning our wedding - we got formally engaged this weekend :)

    I've been lurking on the boards for a month or so to get ideas and such, but now I can get started in earnest! I've really enjoyed reading the past posts and look forward to contributing as time goes on!
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  • edited December 2011
    Wow! Congrats on your engagement, Raangoli!
  • HinajHinaj member
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    edited December 2011
    Our date is set for Oct 2011, but probably be pushed back due to school.  Congrats to everyone here!!!  I would love to hear some of your ideas. 
  • edited December 2011
    I'm considering a small, backyard wedding in the States- desi clothes, but pretty much a non-religous American ceremony.
    DF and I want to save all the hooplah for the Bangladesh wedding.
  • chaudhryschaudhrys member
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    edited December 2011
    Can't wait to see everyone's pics!  Our wedding is coming up on may 29th (guess memorial day weekend in popular).

     I can't believe that it is all beginning to come together. Ihope everything works out for all of us : ). 

    Although working on this program and designing the cermony is proving to be more trouble than I thought.  We are having an islamic ceremony and there just are not that many traditions involved.  It's good in the sense that it short, and that we can do what we want, but bad in the sense that now we have to think about what we want : ). 


  • edited December 2011
    chaudhrys, I'm having a muslim wedding too.  I can't wait to see your pics for inspiration. :)

    Bells- good luck with the RSVPs. :)
  • chaudhryschaudhrys member
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    edited December 2011
    Mrs Khan,

    How are you doing the ceremony in Bangladesh?  My fiancee is half Bangladeshi and we are trying to incorporate some cultural elements in the ceremony as well.

    Thanks!
  • HinajHinaj member
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    edited December 2011
    We are having a Islamic wedding as well?  But I am not that religious, I would love to hear from the muslim brides and what you are doing in your weddings!!!

    Good luck with RSVP Bells!! 

    Mrs. Khan Love to hear more about your wedding in the states as well as Bangladesh.  My mom was born in Bangladesh. 
  • edited December 2011
    That's cool there are so many here with Bangladeshi roots.  I thought I would be alone....

    We don't really have anything set yet for either wedding since eveything can change depending on the outcome of the visa. (pulls out hair) We've spent our entire engagment apart but at least we can skype/call/text/email every day. I honestly think I see him more than I see my friends and family, even though he is thousands of miles away. :)
    All of our plans are pretty conceptual right now, but if everything goes as we are hoping, we will have a small backyard/park, evening wedding here in the States with my family and closest friends. I'm thinking lot of candles...I got a lot of inspiration here.  I want to wear a white sari w/dupatta, and he will either wear a western suit or sherwani. If we don't do the backyard wedding idea, I want to have a nice dinner party at our favorite local restaurant. Low-key is the idea, but still a great celebration of our love.  We want to have American style vows but nothing that is specific to any religion- maybe just some of our favorite things written by Rumi or Tagore.  We want all music to be Bangladeshi or North Indian classical- still searching for good recordings.

    For the Bangladeshi wedding, we want to do everything pretty traditional, but with a modern twist. I really love the tradition that after saying "kabul" that a mirrior is held in front of the couple and they tell each other sweet things about what they see in the mirror. I look at a lot of bangladeshi wedding pictures here, mainly for entertainment because some of them are so over-the-top.

    I would love to hear your plans. Smile
  • HinajHinaj member
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    edited December 2011
    I love all the pics in that blog.  It will be beautiful backyard wedding with that decor.  We are having a very traditional Indian Muslim wedding.  You can check out my wedding planning website at the end of the post.  But both of us are  very modern, so it has a very western feel to it.  LOL I am still trying to convince him to wear a sherwani during the shaadi.  In terms of Muslim traditions, I don't know much about that and I have no clue about a time line during the wedding.  Desi people are not really known to show up on time during weddings or at least any desi weddings I have attended, and we are two very punctual people.   
  • chaudhryschaudhrys member
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    edited December 2011
    Bells -- good luck with the RSVPs, I'm a little ways behind you but that's my worst nightmare as well (although we don't have nearly as many guests)

    Mrs. Khan -- the distance must be so tough, i don't know how people used to do it before skype and gmail chat : ).  My fiancee and I have lived in different cities for the last two years but we are both in the eastern US so we get to see each other.  Keep
    strong!

    HinaJ how do I get to your blog, would love to compare ideas!  We are quite "western" as well, so we are kind of making if up as we go along.  Both sets of our parents were married here so they are not much help with the "traditional" elements either.

    So far we have decided to keep the baarat (although i must admitt that i am a little jealous that he gets to keep the big entrance) but he will come on foot through the lobby of the hotel accompanied by his family and close friends and a dhol player (hopefully some of them will dance).  He will be wearing a traditional sherwani (per his request, I was quite suprised).  He will then progress through the lobby in the courtyard of the hotel wear (provided there is no rain) we will have our ceremony. 

    here is where things get murky...

    I was thinking that my parents would be there to great them, his guests could sit first, followed by his parents and finally him going up our aisle to stand there. But I'm not sure whether to then have my parents and bro and sis in law then follow up to thier seats and then I go up the aisle alone, or whether my parents should hang back and escort me up the aisle. 

    After we all get up there, it's fairly simple, we are keeping the ceremony short.  Our imam will give a khutbah and then do personal vows for us with a ring exchange.  We'll sign the certificate and voila we'll be married!
    After the cermony we will do family photos (we are doing couple photos with our wedding party -- consisting of our mutual brothers and my sis in law) earlier in teh day).  And then go change into our more western outfits.  He got a really nice custom suit made and I have a  light ivory lengha that I will change into. 

    Any thoughts? I would appreciate them!

  • edited December 2011
    Mrs. Khan: Thanks! I like your idea of the smaller, more intimate ceremony here state side and then going big back in Bangladesh!

    I can't wait to see everyone's pictures and hearing the stories! Keep them coming :)
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