Best and Worst of Wedding Planning

Hinaj

Hi guys,

We have our usual M-F posts, but just to throw just additional post out there for us to talk some more.    For our brides already married, what aspect did you find your favorite to plan and what did you dislike the most about in your wedding planning.  For brides planning their weddings, what do you think will be the best part of your planning and worst?

Edit: Also Let's add The Wierdest part of wedding planning as Temurlang pointed out.

DFWIndian

Best Part -- When I complete something and check it off!
Worst part -- Dealing with my parents.

MrsBM

I think the guestlist is by far the hardest thing to do...and kind of most annoying.  It caused a lot of grief and arguements between me and my parents. 
So i eventually learned to not get so bothered by it - and let my parents invite whomever they wanted to.

Also - following up with vendors as the wedding approached.  Our vendors made themselves availale to us fully the week before our wedding - but before that we were fighting for their time with other brides and grooms

The best part of planning your wedding - all the fun details that can only be started within 2-3 months till the day.  Cake tastings, shopping for details, small DIYs...I liked the creative aspect of it.

raangoli

The worst part is dealing with everyone's expectations, wants and needs rather than your own and your husband's. I think we wouldn't have done a lot of what we did if not for others. We did though have our wedding our way, which was small and simple and for that I am thankful.

I agree with Bhanu that the best part was the creative details, personalizing our wedding to be a reflection of our personalities and just having fun with it.

Hinaj

Best Part - I think it will be the shopping, choosing the venue and etc where its FI and I making the decision.

Worst - I think it is the guest list and I know it will cause problems between parents and us where we want to keep it small, they want to invite everyone.

temurlang

Worst:  Well, I guess it's universal... all the things involving politics!  Parents' expectations, the guestlist, the seating chart, relatives butting in, that feeling of hemorrhaging money...

I also hated venue shopping.  I saw so many really dreadful places.  I didn't really like dress shopping that much either for the same reason.

Best:  The creative part!  I really liked making the invitations and escort cards and designing everything and seeing it come together.

Weirdest:  The racist florist LOL!  I interviewed quite a few florists.  One of them was openly racist.  First she asked me if I were marrying an "Asian," meaning Chinese.  I said "My fiance is from India," but I was thinking "none of your business!"  She then asked me if I were Hispanic, so I idin't answer, and she asked me two more times!  Then she went on a rant against a number of ethnic groups and insulted my venue and my church.  Surprisingly, she sent me a proposal two days later.

Hinaj

OMG!!!  I didn't even think it could get wierd!!!  We have to add that in!!

Priya490

I'm not too far along the wedding planning but am going to book a venue within the next few days (here's hoping!).  So far the worst has been venue shopping!  I think the best is going to be checking the venue search off the list!

sapnamukeshwed2012

just to avoid issues, we are planning to hire an event organizer, but.. we still would be doing some planning on our part

Pandya Photography

Best Part: the feeling of getting something done and off the huge list

Worst Part: Trying to remember your dad's friend's son's wife's name is since everyone in the family forgot. Now you have to wait to find out so you can do the seating cards etc.

AquarianDragon

Best: Cake tasting (we just did this!) and settling the venues for the mehndi/sangeet & ceremony/reception.

Worst: Pretty much everything else.... especially a mandap/florist/decorator who essentially said the mandap won't fit in our venue (our ceiling is low) my ideas suck. Well, I think her idea for branches/twigs suck!

Absolute worst: FI's dad pretty much gave his aunt proxy to make decisions on our wedding stuff. However, FI's aunt keeps saying FI's dad needs to be involve, she harasses him into it, and then drama happens.

Current drama: Where to have the engagement. Had auntie not talked FI's dad into going with us to meet with the pandit, we wouldn't have this new issue. Along with the where is which pandit.
 

bridetobeee

Worst- dealing with wedding planner who didn't do ANYTHING, inlaws, trying to hunt down some vendors, dealing with contracts, researching countless vendors to make sure they are reliable

 Best- food tasting, thinking and creating fun DIY projects, friends and family support during stress, remembering that after the wedding is the best part, not really the wedding day because thats when I start spending my life with hubby

kpwedkk

Best Part - Pulling together everything from scratch on my own, and made my own centerpieces for $10 per piece! (It was quoted at $40-$100 a piece, so GO DIY!!)  I seriously went all out, wanted to give my parents a break for raising me, and providing quite a lavish affair :-)  I wanted them, and relatives to feel like royalty, more than I did :-)

Worst Part - Dealing with rellatives, and parents for the most part.  They were into spending OPM (Other people's Money)  - mine, saying that something was super needed, and then back out of some crazy decision... (e.g. you need chairs, those fancy ornate ones that are $400 each to rent for the few hours, are you mad and out of your mind??)

Ways to get around the worst part though - I made sure that all the vendors went through me for any change, that either parents/inlaws wanted, or color changes etc... The vendors generally would say okay, and call me to confirm..  most times I went with my parents decision, but for the modern stuff, I took that in stride.

What I got out of this whole experience, recently separated, getting married was a great experience, many lessons learned with decor, and timing, and outfits and makeup and jewelry, many xls spreadsheets to keep my mind sane  but maybe next time, I won't go all out for a wedding financially, and labor-wise, There's just too much work if you do it on your own, and I had 6 months, and was working overtime at the time and buying a home at the same time.