B&M Tuesdays

DFWIndian

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AquarianDragon

Ok.... where do I begin?

WR: FI gets a call from his aunt to inquire if it's this weekend we're coming [to Houston] because she hasn't looked at her email in a month. Seriously? Even after FI's dad told her on TWO occassions to look at her email? Auntie tells FI her husband won't be able to pick us up from the airport like plannned because of a bunch of stuff going on with his office. Before we bought the plane ticket we asked both of them if it was ok to fly in at 11 pm. Granted, they wanted us to fly in earlier, but that would have meant taking the day off from work, which I can't do and FI doesn't want to do. So, they said 11 pm would be ok. Then says we can have dinner at their place when we get in. At midnight-ish? Really? Then she says she can't drive us around on Monday because her kids have to make up the snow day they took on February 2nd. I find this out in a series of texts, so FI says we need to rental a car and maybe rent a room the night we arrive. I had a bad feeling and suggested last week we call Auntie to check in.... I asked him to do it on Saturday, Sunday and yesterday. She also says we can meet the priest Saturday morning. Umm, like.... we have various appointments setup on Saturday. Basically, since the major task for his Auntie that FI's dad is expecting is setting up the priest stuff. FI thinks she blurted out about meeting the priest because otherwise she's probably not going to get it done if we aren't in Houston. FI's dad is disappointed in his sister's lack of assistance, yet still wants us to consult with her and her husband? Are you freakin' kiddin' me? Auntie also says I have to meet with a mehndi person. Hello? We already have appointments lined up for the weekend. Don't decide now that you want to be involved and try to add to our vendor list. We're only in Houston 2.5 days!!! Everytime another challenge comes up I ask to elope. I've never wanted a big wedding, but if it were going to happen, then my plan was to hire somebody. We were going to hire somebody but Auntie said there was no need. Clearly, there was a need, but since FI has done a lot of leg (logistics) work himself, he doesn't want to turning things over to a planner. I'm at a point where I wish we would have consented to getting married in India.... we'd be removed from the planning, and FI's uncle and cousin that live in Mumbai are designers and architects.... auntie there would probably be on the details and the decor would probably have been awesome.

NWR: Work is awful.... dreadful. I have this co-worker who I could bore you all to death about (or you all would wonder if I was making the crap up about her), but I won't. I'll just stick with today (or try to). She took Friday and Monday off for her birthday weekend. Fine (even though she takes 2-3 days off because she's "sick" every month). She calls in sick today *shocker.... really* because "she's 'due' and she has a migraine. Are you freakin' kiddin' me? Can I just take you and the rest of womanhood out of misery for that comment? If she wasn't a drama train wreck, and if she actually did a decent job and doing what she is employed to do, I might shed a tear about her inability to cope with being a woman. Anyway, while I took my lunch I look at her profile on Facebook. So it sounds like the weekend went alright, but the big Valentine's Day went into the crapper *shocker*. Seems as though she spent the night feeling sorry for herself, got freakin' drunk, cut her hair while drunk, and overall just made herself look like a damn fool.... again and her headache is probably a hangover, not "woman-ly" issue related. Meanwhile, our other co-worker has been sick for two weeks and doesn't take time off because she doesn't want me to be left alone to run the office. However, Monday and today she left early both days because she just can't hang anymore. Not mad at her for that, at all.

I never thought I would be "that woman" who couldn't wait to get married and quit her job!!! I so cannot wait. The plan was for me to go back to school when we got married (hence why we're getting married in June), but OH-MY-GOSH!! My last day of work is the 1st day I get health benefits or the Friday before classes start..... which ever comes first. The practice admin keeps probing my post-wedding plans; she's freakin' out because she doesn't know what I'm doing, the other co-worker might go back to school in the fall, and our surgery scheduler is a freakin', drama queen loser!!

Blah, blah, blah.

The end.

DFWIndian

Wow you aunt situation seems messy! Can I ask why you are having the wedding in Houston if you guys don't live there? If you need help I can try and help out a little. My older sister lives there and little sister has a lot of friends who recently got married there. If I was having my wedding down there I would be set!

I also have a co-worker like that!!! She is CRAZY! She calls in all the time and even when she is here, she is in FB or texting. It's ridiculous. If she calls in you can check her fb to see what caused the call in because it's always something to do with her partying to hard!

temurlang

Seriously?  EVERY month catches her by surprise?  And she's not embarrassed to call in for that?  And I thought being unattached on Valentine's Day stopped being the end of the world in high school!  The whole thing cracked me up, although I totally understand why you would be ready to leave that job!

The aunt thing seems pretty common, unfortunately... My family did a lot of that, wanting certain things, expecting someone else to do the work, all the back and forth and duplication of stuff already done, and feeling so-and-so MUST be involved even though they aren't doing what they said they would.

For what it's worth, I don't think doing the wedding in India would entirely solve the problem.  It's true that you need much less meticulous planning there, but my ILs still managed to have things undone when we got there.  We had half a day in Kolkata on our way to their village (which is  a 3 hour train ride away and they go all the time), and they asked DH to go see the venue and order the food and the reception was in a week!  The sari blouses my MIL had made had to be re-made (the morning of the first reception), and no one had their clothes yet.  Based on my friends' experiences, this seems pretty typical.

AquarianDragon

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_south-asian-weddings_bm-tuesdays-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:430Discussion:c1a4ab00-7222-4046-9344-85dab388b82fPost:a657ff65-c4ab-4c78-a943-51fcd66f49ff">Re: B&M Tuesdays</a>:
[QUOTE]Can I ask why you are having the wedding in Houston if you guys don't live there? Posted by DFWIndian[/QUOTE]

<strong><font color="#000080">FI grew up in Houston. His dad still lives there and told him we get married in Houston or Mumbai or he wasn't going. After some back and forth (pissing my family off in the process) we agreed and FI's auntie was supposed to be helping in this since she lives there and has been to 'millions' of weddings in the Houston metro.... was supposed to ask her friends for vendor referrals.

Luckily, FI is a planner bee, is very interested in ensuring our wedding weekend is well put together, and he can find the time to research and call vendors while at work.</font></strong>

<strong><font color="#000080">I still suggest taking a fraction of our expected cost to Vegas and have a classy ceremony at the Bellagio or Venetian. I get in trouble for saying that though.</font></strong>