Wearing the 'wedding colours'

MrsBM

Hey ladies

I went to dinnner with two of my girlfriends recently...and they commented on the fact that two ladies who were married into my family wore red on my wedding day.

One was my miserable sister in law and one was my cousin brothers wife.

What do you think about other woman in the family wearing the traditional wedding colours...red, green & gold etc?

Would you wear the wedding colours to a wedding?

HisBelovedOne

I've never been to an Indian wedding, but the taboo colors for American weddings are white (bride's color), red (associated with "loose" women) and black (mourning). I've never worn any of those colors to a wedding for that reason.

Funny how only WOMEN seem to have these rules of what they can and can't wear to weddings...

kpwedkk

I agree with HisBelovedOne and also, if they don't outshine the bride, then who really cares... All of your guests obviously knew who the bride and groom were right??

I wore an outfit that was mostly green and yellow, with hints of red in it to someone else's wedding... did I wear red or not?

Hinaj

I agree with the other ladies here!!  These days most of the brides do not wear the traditional colors but opting for something like hot pink, blue....if we started worrying about trying to avoid the colors the bride is wearing. 

I have worn red to a wedding that had a lot of cream and gold in it, but I like red and I usually tend to choose the colors I like.  I have also seen married ladies at weddings that have dressed in clothes that they wore on their wedding.  I think it shouldn't be done, but nothing like earth shattering about it.  As long as people know who the bride is, it doesn't matter. 

MrsBM

Well its the comment that made me wonder....

Obviously these two ladies were close to the bride and groom in some way...so obviously their clothes would be heavier...my friend actually said "why were they were clothes that looked like brides lengha, it looks like they wanted the attention"

:S

I personally didn't even notice but the fact that other people (actually close friends)

But also I would never wear red to someones wedding (not even my sister...unless she askd me to lol)...red/pink/maroon/dark green even now fuscia are the brides colour

raangoli

I think with desi weddings, it's kind of hard, especially now that brides are expanding their colors that they choose from. And of course that desi lenghas/saris, etc are pretty ornate and then adding jewelry most guests are pretty dressed up or would appear that way to non-desi guests.

GilliC

I tend to shy away from red and white/cream when I attend Indian weddings because I would be self-conscious about people making comments like that (for some reason I'm less concerned about gold).

However, at the last Indian wedding I went to, a few of the women actually mentioned that they were wearing their own bridal outfits.  Their opinion was "I might as well just wear this one again, rather than going out and paying to have another fancy suit made!"  (Both were family members, and I think the brides [dual wedding] were wearing hot pink.)

DFWIndian

I think you need to stop listening to your friend. Did you feel like it was out of line? This is what matters. If you felt like they took the shine from you then there is an issue otherwise you're fine.
Personally I haven't gone to many Hindu weddings so I have never wore red to one. I have a lot of Saris though and I'm able to have that option. If they don't then they may have wore just what they had.

I will of course aviod wearing red when I go to a friends wedding and sometimes I'll even find out what the wedding colors are and avoid wearing those. I really don't think anyone pays me any mind, but it makes me feel better.