My DF and I are big Fred Astaire fans and competetive ballroom dancers. We are getting married next month on my parents farm and he wants to wear a top hat and tails. But some people are saying the clash between formal and informal would be too much. We wouldn't require everyone to dress formally. With the buffet reception being inside the house, ceremony outside in the garden/orchard right around sunset, and a firepit for the reception as well, how do I make this mixture of informal and formal work. By the way, his brothers and my entire family are a little off beat as it is (my brothers want to come in costumes and want me to get married under the church of the flying spaghetti monster...google it)