Wednesday ranting

Jeni1090

Bear with me-I'm stressed to the gills and just need somewhere to vent it all before I hurt my FI or drop dead of a heart attack before the wedding.

1)  Beanie baby is cutting molars.  I thought the first 7 were bad (4 in at once, then 3 in at once).  I was wrong.  She woke up every 20 minutes last night screaming.  I tried everything in the arsenal.  She finally went to sleep when I took one of my (unused) toothbrushes, put some Orajel on it, and brushed her gums REALLY hard.  This was at 5:20 this morning.

2)  I finalized the cake order yesterday, based on discussions I had previosuly with FI.  It's a tiered crepe cake with vanilla cream between the crepes, and will be served with raspberry and chocloate sauces.  So I tell FI that I had put the order in while we were at the bank drive thru.  After he told the teller that he was withdrawing cash for our marriage license.  All hell broke loose-"What?  No, I wanted different fruit filling between the layers!  How could you not dicuss this with me!?"  I told him I put in the order based on what he told me and the planner.  Him: "Have you even tasted this?"  Me (sarcastically): "No, I bought our wedding cake blind without knowing anything about it.  Of course I've tasted it!  You have too!  And I ordered what YOU wanted!  And you're yelling at me about a cake you won't even have time to eat!!!"  At this point the teller is cracking up.

3)  We go get the license.  I then discover how he deals with life events: by going to a local ice cream shop.  I'm diabetic, so I order a diet Coke.  He proceeds to have a meltdown because I won't eat ice cream.  At this point, I've had enough.  I yell at him "No comas this week!" and stomp out to the car.  He did apologize for that one pretty quickly.

4)  Our house is a wreck and I can't get anything done after work because the bean is teething and in high-maintenance mode.  I ask him to get all his junk off the table.  Him: "But that's your job."  So I threw it ALL in a bag and put it in the trash.  He stomped like a 2 year old, retrieved the bag, and started sorting.  ALL the stuff was back on the table this morning.  I told him if it was still there when I got home, it was going in the burn barrel. 

For the record, I offered to go to Vegas.  I apparently have a groomzilla.

Grau

That does seem a lot to deal with.

Before you guys got engaged and starting planning, did you always have disagreements like this? Or is there something (non-wedding related) that might be stressing him out also? That is really weird about the ice cream thing, since I am assuming he knows that you are diabetic? 

It really seems like both of you are stressed out to the max, and snap at each other for everything. Maybe take a weekend and go out and have fun. Don't do anything wedding related. One of mine and FI favorite things to do when we get like this is to go mini-golfing, or to a drive-in movie.

Just take a deep breathe and relax. It is always best to make decisions in a calm mind. Good luck, and I hope everything turns out well.

Jeni1090

Thanks Grau. 

We've been together for 10 years, lived together for 5.  We have disagreements, but usually know when they are irrelavent (like the cake thing).  Normally we snip at each other quickly, one will go "rawr", and that's the signal that's it's not important. 

He knows I'm diabetic, but I wes recently diagnosed.  So it's acttually a big shift in lifestyle, not just diet.  We're both still adjusting.

I think between the lack of sleep, the job stresses (we've both had our work environments turned upside down in the last few weeks), the baby, and then put a wedding on top of it, we're both losing it.

The wedding is on Monday.  This time next week, we will be in Key West.  I've already booked massages.  And we will be child-free for the honeymoon.  I just need to not put my size 9s up his rear until then.

uneek1323

Try to relax and enjoy your last few days before the wedding with your FI. You have a lot going on, but you can't control your diagnosis or your child's molars, so try to do everything you can to relax and go with it.

You'll soon be back to normalcy once the wedding is over. 

I'm down to 31 days and I'm looking forward to weekends where I don't have to go out on shop online and can relax by the beach with a book.

coralee715

Big hugs going your way.  Some days are just like that, and its nice that we have a place to vent.  Also remember that girls are more apt to vent...at  places like here, and to friends, whereas boys are apt to hold it all in until they burst - usually at the one they love.

Jeni1090

Thank y'all.  I'm hoping that once the festivities are underway (the girls are doing a spa day Saturday while the guys go waterskiing), we can chill a little.  I think having all our friends in town might be a welcome distraction.  And hopefully her molars will break through tonight or tomorrow.

reliart

This is  such stressful time! I think you are handling it great, sounds like you guys are just both wayyy stressed (which seems perfectly normal to me, given the circumstances) and a little vent is just what the doc ordered! Hope this week lies by and you can get back to less stress soon! Key West will DEF help!

kgettingmarried

Oh, I totally understand the teething baby woes...Orajel is a godsend.  I have a 2 year old who has been just an emotional rollercoaster since he was born (although in strange contrast was silent the first few minutes after the birth, but awake).  He is now a toddler who likes to rant, rave and scream when he doesn't get his way.  

Girl, Key West is exactly what you and your FI need.  Don't worry, Monday is only a few days away!!!!!!!!!

Maybe don't discuss anything wedding related that isn't absolutely crucial until then?  Sleep deprivation, teething baby and wedding planning do not mix.  GL!!!