What is the point of:

mandcz

I'm not known for being the most refined person in the world. In fact, most people agree I'm rather callous and coarse, in the least-ill-intentioned of ways. I don't understand wedding etiquette at all, but I don't really want to go back to the wedding etiquette page to ask questions because those ladies are vicious and yell at me. <_<;; So, I'm asking here. What are the points of some of these things??? Seating charts and place cards (can't people seat themselves? Do I really know better than they do who they would prefer to sit with? And will they just like .. forget where they're sitting? Is seating at my reception so in-demand that people will steal their place if it doesn't have their names written on it?) Escort cards (our wedding ceremony will be outside; most of the seating is on blankets forming a half-circle around the bridge serving as our altar. Is escorting really necessary, and what the heck is an escort card for, anyway?) I can understand some things (like the guestbook is obviously convenient when it comes to sending out thank you cards) and I can understand the THEORY of everyone wanting to base their outfit off my mom’s dress, (I picked out her dress with her, and most people STILL think she’s going to be dressed “inappropriately.”) though our wedding will be really casual, and I think everyone should just stop worrying about one-upping each other and just dress comfortably. (and so I’ve told them, but they just laugh and keep asking.) … I don’t understand why all brides are expected to act like they’ve just graduated finishing school or something when it comes to their weddings. I’m not a fine lady, I’m an angry activist, a proud mommy, and a non-traditional, agnostic, anarchistic bride-to-be that is in love with my equally non-traditional, agnostic, anarchistic fiancé. ....... also, for the record, most people I know LIKE the fact that I use Facebook along with traditional invites and a wedding webpage to keep them all updated on major changes and they can RSVP on my webpage ( http://www.mywedding.com/ziegler ) which everyone has said is really convenient. I'm told FB is "horribly rude" and "terrible etiquette" but no one has complained, or done anything but appreciate my thoughtful consideration in making everything easy for them.