Im not sure if this qualifies as "off beat" but my heart certainly skips a few beats when I think of my wedding next May! I am marrying my Pastor! Hes actually said to me once, "see me as a man first" and ,melted my heart! Problem: Our church has a congregation of over 600+ and EVERYONE expects to be invited!!!! It also doesn't help that he proposed in front of most of them!! I couldnt have asked for a more perfect proposal but those who witnessed especially think they have some direct invite! I love them all but cant afford to host such large group of people and their plus one!! If we were getting married at the church, I wouldnt feel so bad cause everyone and anone could come to the ceremon but we are not!!! Our ceremony and reception are at the same venue!!! Please help me process this!! Its been 2 months since the engagement and I really do not like attending church. On average, at least 5 people approach me and tell me how much they are looking forward to our wedding!!! My heart drops every single time! I don't want to anger or worse hurt people! I do understand its their Pastor and they want to see him/us get married but boy....I just can't! With our family and a few close friends we only have room for about 7 couples! We are keeping it to about 100-120 guests! I just dont know what to do! I am so happy and excited but I must admit, this is a great source of anxiety!!!