No Family Will Be There

patrick401ca

Our wedding is in October. My parents do not accept my partner or our relationship and won't be there. Is anyone else having family issues? How do you keep your chin up when you look at the guest list and no one from your family is there?

leckywade

Back in January I asked my Godsister if her 8 yr. old daughter could be the flower girl for my October ceremony.  She said "Sure, we'd love to".  So I'm about 3/4  thru planning and call to get her dress size because I won a flower girl dress at a bridal expo.  My Godsister kindly informs me at she and her husband have decided that my niece won't "understand" two women getting married and pull out of the ceremony. Get this, she still wants to attend!?

tazman75

my wedding is in july of 2010 and me and my partner have more issues with my family. my dad is planning on being there but my mom is not she can't handle it do to their relgious beliefs. I will miss my mom not being their but I will enjoy my day with the man I going to married.

JillandGayle

It saddens me to read that so many of us are dealing with relatives that do not support our relationships.  My immediate family is wonderful in this regard but my partner's is not, and we don't know whether her parents will come - her sister definitely will not come.  Other than that, our wedding will be all friends.  It is difficult to hear straight people lecture about how weddings are "all about family" - it seems to me that weddings should be about celebrating among people who love and support you without hesitation.

Jeni35

Sorry to hear this and let me add this is not just a gay problem. There are a million issues. Here's what I think and I wasn't invited to my sister's wedding because she didn't think I would come. I would have, albeit I am not the fondest of my sil as a person; but her parents do not know her orientation and that was a major issue. We end up choosing our own families. Sometimes our families are our closest friends and co-workers and neighbors and pets. If you have given the family adequate time to accept your lifestyle choice and they cannot be happy for you; then it will be their regret, not yours. I speak from the same experience. My sister now wants another wedding because we were not there. And she will have one because I am arranging it to be the day after mine as a surprise. You really want the people who love you, respect you and accept you there, not folks who will act stiff and not be happy for you. My fi and I agreed to have a small wedding because I didn't want all of his family's friends (whom I don't know and he is not fond of) there to fill space. It's not mean, just honest. I wish you happiness, love and peace, as I do everyone who is getting married. I fianlly figured out that I was making things too difficult. This is our day, not someone else's. Do NOT let them ruin it for you. G-d loves you!