Super torn, :(

kbjw121314

Not sure what to do about a wedding date, my fiancé wants to go to NYC 12/13/14 and get married which is completely fine but then I want to have a big wedding in my hometown so my whole family can come. I'm torn as far as the date, I feel like 12/13/14 is forever far away and if we have something after we go to NYC it will have to be in 2015 because of the holiday, but I don't know how I feel about having it before we go to NYC because I was hoping to be able to have all my pictures from NYC at my wedding in my hometown!!! HELP!!!

QueerFemme

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[QUOTE]Not sure what to do about a wedding date, my fiancé wants to go to NYC 12/13/14 and get married which is completely fine but then I want to have a big wedding in my hometown so my whole family can come. I'm torn as far as the date, I feel like 12/13/14 is forever far away and if we have something after we go to NYC it will have to be in 2015 because of the holiday, but I don't know how I feel about having it before we go to NYC because I was hoping to be able to have all my pictures from NYC at my wedding in my hometown!!! HELP!!!
Posted by kbjw121314[/QUOTE]

No one can really answer this for you.  If your fiance is stuck on that date, then you'll have to work with that.  I would not have an AHR before your ceremony in NY.  So, if you can't get your fiance to budge on the date, then I'd start planning a 2015 AHR.

2dBride

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[QUOTE]In Response to Super torn, :( : No one can really answer this for you.  If your fiance is stuck on that date, then you'll have to work with that.  I would not have an AHR before your ceremony in NY.  So, if you can't get your fiance to budge on the date, then I'd start planning a 2015 AHR.
Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]I agree that the AHR should not come before the ceremony.  The reception is supposed to be a celebration of the marriage.  Celebrating something that has not happened yet is just going to confuse people.

kbjw121314

Thanks!!! I think we have decided on a date!! We are doing January 2014 and then a reception when we get back, probably in March over spring break since we are both in school!