Hi, I could use some opinions please!
We're inviting two women to our wedding. They had a commitment ceremony years ago, before domestic partnerships/civil unions were legalized in our state. We are unsure if their marriage is legally recognized or not at this point, but we know they kept their own last names. So I'm not sure if it's proper to address them as Ms. Jones and Ms. Smith, or Mrs. Jones and Mrs. Smith.
I thought maybe we'd print "Ms." on the envelope since it's kind of a "failsafe" option for not knowing a woman's preferred title ... but I also don't see why they'd be offended by "Mrs." since they ARE a married couple, even if they don't necessarily use the Mrs. title. I wouldn't want them to think that we're not recognizing their marriage if we use Ms. We've lost touch with them over the years (so we don't have a phone number where we could call them and simply ask), but we want to send an invite and let them know that they're welcome.
So, married girls, what do you and your wives prefer? Ms. or Mrs.? Thanks for your opinions!