I grew up in a very conservative home and my parents were very anti-homosexual. To the point where my father practically chased away my mom's only sister because she was a lesbian. Now my mother is working through her feelings about her sister and my father has since passed away (We were very close) I finally got over my fears and realized that I wasn't abnormal but a lesbian! Growing up I could never figure out why I just didn't feel attracted any men and felt very close to and attracted to women. Anyway I mostly moved on from this fear and found a wonderful woman that I am deeply in love with and want to spend the rest of my life with. I am for the most part very comfortable with myself as long as I am at college where I have a strong network of supportive friends but as soon as I go home I am left with only my mom and little brother and I once again feel like I am less than human almost. I have come out to my mom and that did not go well so now I am wanting to get married and have a family but I feel like I can't really enjoy this because of my family. I know this sounds bad but I almost wish that my girlfriend was a guy because then I could enjoy this wonderful part of my life with my whole family and not sneak around and feel guilty later. I've gotten a little better about it but I know the whole "wish you were a guy" complex is upsetting my dreams. I just wanted to know if these feelings were normal and if so what can I do about them?