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just started planning.. i need advice please!

I would like to know what some of you think about a 2day wedding. We plan on having it in may 2013. the days are still being worked out, we were thinking a wedding ceremony at night on the beach (sunset  included)with just family(parents,siblings,grandparents…) the ppl who really matter.(to follow that those that were there go to dinner and celebrate.) And then the following day to have the reception at my aunts house who has a huge backyard and can hold many ppl there.(starting it at 1till we leave) We were thinking of a fri/sat combo or sat/sun combo… the reason we want 2 days is cuz most of our families probably wouldn’t want to witness us getting married(since it goes against their views) but they do love both of us and our relationship…they have met sam and they know that I have found the most amazing woman in the world… so they would ok with being at the reception.

 I guess what I want to know is how do you go about telling only certain ppl they are coming to the ceremony and how do you tell the others they are only being invited to reception. My family talks and I know someone will say something.  I have plenty of other questions too… planning a wedding is hard!

Re: just started planning.. i need advice please!

  • edited December 2011

    What if you send out an invitation with an RSVP that listed an option to attend reception only?

    Would that be too confusing to your guests? That way you aren't assuming who would want to attend just the reception. Your guests can RSVP and choose their comfort level.

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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_gay-weddings_just-started-planning-need-advice-please?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:44Discussion:c6a12721-8ad5-4ca3-bd8c-44b5f358b313Post:596cd4b5-66f0-4675-981e-dd5121cd712d">Re: just started planning.. i need advice please!</a>:
    [QUOTE]What if you send out an invitation with an RSVP that listed an option to attend reception only? Would that be too confusing to your guests? That way you aren't assuming who would want to attend just the reception. Your guests can RSVP and choose their comfort level.
    Posted by daniec[/QUOTE]
    I think this is a great idea! This way you're making sure you're not excluding someone you assumed didn't want to go to both. I think its perfect.
  • edited December 2011
    WE are getting married in july 2010. I had Rsvp sent out with the invation It had on there can attend both, can attend reception, or sorry can not atend either. It has worked out well. You are giving people a choice to be comfortable at their level.
  • edited December 2011
    I like giving people a choice.  I know people who only go to receptions REGARDLESS of who's getting married, and people who feel wrong NOT going to a ceremony.  So giving them the option sounds perfect :-)
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