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Do I have to invite her?

JessS55JessS55
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I was pretty good friends with a girl in college but we've fallen out of touch in the last year and haven't seen each other in over a year, so clearly I'm not inviting her to my wedding. (We're trying to keep it at 100 or less and I have a huge family) Anyways, now she's getting married 3 weeks before me and just sent me an email STD. From what I can see only 50-75 people are invited and I'm shocked I'm one of them. What do I do? I can't invite her to mine but should I go to her anways to be nice? I'm also worried about it being so close to my wedding and that'll I'll be crazy busy. Help!
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Re: Do I have to invite her?

  • C&Rin09C&Rin09
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    edited December 2011
    I wouldn't go, especially if it is OOT and would involve hotel, gift, dress, etc.  I am 2 months out and there is so much to pay for now I had to decline a wedding on the 8th because I couln't afford it.  I would just send a card with your regrets, and if you want to be really nice a gift.  But only if you want to be really nice ;)  
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  • weirbergweirberg
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    edited December 2011
    i had something similar happen. IMO, i would politely decline the invite.
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  • Julia O'BrienJulia O'Brien
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    edited December 2011
    You should never have to invite someone to your wedding unless you truly want to have them there and celebrate with them. I would decline.. and you have good reason, you're busy with your own wedding! besides who said you even have to give a reason? Maybe just send a card wishing her and her fiance well with a gift card for dinner or something...Don't feel bad, this happens to a lot of people... and who knows, maybe she thought the same about inviting you, but just wanted to be nice.. didn't want to offend you?I have a friend that I fell out with also.. in fact we've not spoken in more than a year, and I'm not going to invite her. I feel bad about it b/c I don't want to hurt her feelings... but when I think about having her celebrate my day with me, I feel even worse b/c it would be awkward.. I decided right from the get-go that I would not be inviting ANYONE just for the formality of it.Don't worry, you're doing the right thing! :) The goal is to enjoy your special day.. it's all about you and your Hubby-to-be.. no one else ;)
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  • JessS55JessS55
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks for all the advice girls! It's nice to know that my gut feeling was pretty spot on.
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