honeymoon at home...while working...ideas?

untherapy

Hello ladies I just found this board! (never really saw those other tabs on the community page :P)

I'm trying to be a big girl about this, but FI and I are not going to get a honeymoon and it's bringing me down.

I've always imagined at least a week of blissful honeymoon "exploration", intimacy, etc to start our marriage off. What we'll get is about 20 hours followed by a plane flight home (lands at midnight) and alarm clocks set for work the next morning.

There's nothing to be done about it (no vacation time), and I'm certainly not angry or upset with him, but I'm worried I'll be an emotional wreck when we get home. I never daydreamed about springing right into the "sorry babe I have to get up early" or "can we just watch TV I'm really tired from work" mode....

Any ideas for how to have a honeymoon-slash-work-week, without it becoming pathetic and depressing because we're trying too hard and it feels fake?. What can we do at home that will feel genuinely romantic?

I know I sound like a baby, but I need help - right now when I think about it I start crying, and that definitely CANNOT happen after our wedding, so I'm reaching out for some suggestions. Thanks

untherapy

(just to clarify this has nothing to do with not being able to go somewhere exotic or expensive - it's the fact that there's not even a whole day of time for us to be newlyweds together before the grind begins...)

amongthelilies25

wow...that is a tough situation. '

BUT.....you will be his beloved wife! so..i cant imagine it would be depressing either way. i know its probably not IDEAL having to jump into a work week. 

i think you can think of ways to keep the romance there in a honeymoon style. 

maybe when he gets off work slip into something you feel sexy in to suprise him. suprise him in the morning while he is getting ready for work or make a nice dinner with candlelight at the table. just because you cant go somewhere and have complete solitude doesnt mean you cant still have a great sex life with your new husband! trust me..i doubt he will care that you aren't away from your house. he is just gonna be excited to be with you. 

i dont think it will feel fake or forced....the two of you love eachother dearly and are FINALLY married! (: 

enjoy every single blissful moment with him. 

kalizoomba

I'm in the same situation. We're just going to go with the flow for a few more months until we CAN take off work for a few more days and just spend time with each other at home. 

BrideToBeBecauseHeLovesMe

Another idea (I like greeting him in something you feel sexy in) is when he gets home, to have a candlelit dinner, with maybe some rose petals scattered and the lights dimmed - straight out of a movie but I bet it's nice!!  Then you can take things to the bedroom and maybe even shower after that.    Just enjoy being together.  That's what it's about anyways. 

amongthelilies25

exactly..i agree with b2b. its about spending time with your new husband. (:

its gonna be amazing EVEN IF you dont get that getaway you thought you would. maybe after sometime you two can get a quick weekend getaway later on. (:

you will be able to think of fun (and exciting, sexy, eploratory) ways to have with your new hubby. 

dont focus so much on what you cant do...focus on what you can. (: 

untherapy

Thanks for the ideas

I'm frustrated that I'm having such a difficult time with this - I realize it's a blessing to even have 5-6 hours together after work. Too much daydreaming when I was younger!

I've struggled with depression in the past, so I'm trying to be proactive and make a list of "honeymoon" things to do so I won't have time to get depressed that we aren't getting any special brand-new time together. No video games is on the list :P and I'm gonna add some of your suggestions, so thanks

amongthelilies25

you're welcome!

i know its hard when you build a fantasy up in your head..how hard it can get for you when you dont have it come true. 

but remember that reality is BETTER then fantasy. You and your new husband will have your whole lives to explore eachother's bodies. so it really is OKAY that you wont have a honeymoon. Every night can be a honeymoon if you want it to be. (;

when is your wedding day?

untherapy

August 6th

amongthelilies25

oh awesome! getting close! mine is August 20th and i am soooooooo excited! hehe. 

well i pray that you have a wonderful wedding day AND night...even if it is only a few hours. a few hours over a lifetime is long time!! 

katanne9

Turn off your phones, put away your computers and forget chores. If you're not at work - ignore the world!

Buy lots of fresh flowers, candles and tasty foods ahead of time. Cook together, watch movies, have romantic time.

I would write down ideas on slips of paper ("Take a walk together", "Take a shower", "snuggle", "make dessert", "go to a movie", "go get coffee and do crossword puzzles together"... so on) and put them all in a jar so you have a surprise every day. Pick at random and enjoy your week together (and you can do the rest of the slips after the HM!)!

You will be together and spending quality time together. That's all that matters!

AshNoel8

Wow, katanne's advice is awesome! I totally agree with her. The surprise factor will be exciting and it's good to turn off everything and focus on him for the few hours a day you can spend together. Enjoy! 

joyfulbride424

Hello! Nice to see you here

Katanne has given you some great advice - I won't rewrite because that would be a waste - I would do exactly what she said

untherapy

what a great idea That also sounds like something you could make into a fun bridal shower game! Thank you

amongthelilies25

katanne!!! i LOVE that advice! i think i want to do that too after our HM! (: make the work week exciting!!! (:

DramaGeek

I was coming in to say exactly what Katanne did.  In fact, that's a great idea for all married couples, no matter how long ago the wedding was!

abbeylynne06

Ditto what everyone else said, plus--could you go away the next weekend?  Like, leave Friday night or Saturday morning and stay Saturday night, come back Sunday afternoon/evening.  Even if you just drove to a nice hotel nearby or a destination that's 1-2 hours away.  Then you'd have something to look forward to that first week and take a little mini honeymoon getaway quickly.