When did you know?

yodacub

My great-uncle died a couple weeks ago, and his wife gave a eulogy and told this story.  When they were first dating, my mom and uncle were little and my great uncle thought the world of them.  Then while they were still dating, my aunt was born with a severe cleft palate and lip (my grandma had to be sedated she was so upset).  My great uncle and his girlfriend went to the hospital to see them, and as he held his new niece, he saw past the deformities and kept saying how beautiful she was.  And that's when his future wife knew that she wanted to marry him and have him be the father of her children. 

FI says he "knew" after our first date.  It took me a little longer - he got sick a few months after we were dating and I wanted so much to take care of him and make him feel better that I didn't care if I got sick too.  Anyone else have stories about when they knew their FI/H was "the one?"

SugarFoote

My FI said he knew the moment he first saw me. We were at church and I had not a clue as to who he was. He said when he saw me that God told him that he would marry me one day.

I knew after he told me this. My dad told my mom on their first date that he was going to marry her. I have always been the type of person that "falls in love quickly" lol ( I know now that none of my past BFs were love). So I had always prayed that the right guy will tell me the same thing my dad told my mom...and he did

Ash61612

FI and I kinda eased into our relationship slowly. We were both getting over bad relationships and weren't looking to get into a new one. We became really good friends as we got to know each other. It got to a point where I couldn't imagine him not being in my life and I knew he was meant for me.

Ccsvball05

My H and I started dating right before Christmas and the first week of February I left for a 7 day cruise. I knew from that point on I never wanted to leave him again!

FaithCaitlin

FI and I have been best friends for 10 years-- I always had a crush on him and it turns out he did too! About a year into dating, I knew that I'd spend the rest of my life with him. Can't explain it; just knew! FI says he knew from the minute we started dating. Despite long distance, a period of fighting, etc I could never imagine my life w/o him and here we are now!

DramaGeek

I don't know about H, I'd have to ask him.  For me, I think i knew subconsciously in the first couple of months we were dating.  It freaked me out and I broke up with him .  Then when we got back together a couple months later I knew for sure.  We dated another year before we got engaged though.

RebeccaJac

I knew as soon as I met him. I distinctly remember the first time I laid eyes on him about 10 years ago. He had a girlfriend and was a bit older than I was (which was a big deal then!) and after that we moved to different parts of the country but one day facebook suggested we be friends. (Admittedly, I had Myspaced stalked him quite a bit! Creeper status achieved.) 

After that we quickly started dating and that realization I had when I was the ripe 'ol age of 14 came back!

randlettandfraleigh

H and I started dating right at the beginning of a summer, and I remember once when I went to visit him that summer, we were spending time with his family and I watched the way he was playing with his sister and how much love he had for his family and his family had for him and I knew that this was a man I could spend the rest of my life with. (We had already said I love you at that point, and I knew I did, but that really showed me that this was a man I could build a life with). 

H tells a story about how before we even spoke he told his friend that he would date me, and then when we started talking, he told his friend he would marry me. He knew before I did, but it didn't take me long to catch up

mattycam

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[QUOTE]FI and I kinda eased into our relationship slowly. We were both getting over bad relationships and weren't looking to get into a new one. Posted by Ash61612[/QUOTE]

That's how we started as well. We were friends for many years before we got together but he knew I was going to be his wife before I knew he was going to be my husband.  God had revealed it to him before we got together.

agape1cor813

H and I were friends for a year before we began dating. Once we started dating, he says he knew around the four- to six-month mark that he wanted to marry me. I knew around the four-month mark, when it was really cold outside and I was walking to class from my apartment (about a 25-minute walk) in November, and I was freezing, and I heard a honk behind me and I turned around to see him pulling into a parking lot and offering me a ride to class. That's just one example, of course, but I was impressed by his generosity and willingness to go out of his way to help me out.

faith415

H was the first person I ever dated, those first few months we were alternately out of town so often that I ended up breaking it off with him. If only I had known then that we would live 4 hours apart for most of our relationship! When we got back together a few months later I pretty much knew that was it, but I was only 16 at the time. Right before he left for college he gave me a promise ring saying that one day it would be the real thing. A few months after I left for college we hit a slight rough patch and after we made it through that I knew that no matter what we could make it through anything.

So basically, it was something I always knew, but I didn't want to rush anything. DH knew he wanted to marry me, but he needed a lot more time to get to that stage.

staybeautiful1717

I can't say there's a specific event that made me realize, but after we'd been together for about 2-3 months, I just knew.

For H, there was a specific event though. He told my mom recently (I had no idea about this until she mentioned it to me). He went to visit his family in Texas for about a week during the summer, only a couple months after we first started dating. As he was coming home, he passed by the park in our hometown. I was there sitting on top of my car watching the sunset, and he said he looked at me and thought "holy crap, I love her. she's the one."

SuMmErKuTiE

I had just gotten out of a really bad relationship when I met DH. I had only been single for a few months and wasn't looking for a relationship, but he was persistent. Once I let him in, I fell hard for him fast. I always knew that the guy I would one day marry would be someone who had everything on my "list" and I wouldn't have to compromise on anything. And I had a pretty ridiculous list haha. As I said in my vows at our wedding ceremony, I am so thankful that God brought him into my life in His perfect timing.

GunzNRoses213

I met him while we were all out with a group of people but we had kinda started talking and we hadnt really stopped... I found out he was  Christian and tons of other need to know items about him the first night I met him and I really thought he was cute. I had been pretty serious with somone about 6 months before that and basically had just said to myself it just wasnt gonna happen... I swear the night I met him I had a voice say to me .. " This is'nt too good to be true ... it is true"... I kept on thinking how is this man single ?? Please let him be single !!

I facebook friended him etc. and our mutal friend kinda helped us along by inviting me to his birthday party a month later and we again talked for HOURS...

I was the one the made the first move.... That isnt like me at all but I just had this notion to do so I figured why not ??!! Well little did I know that he had been on and off the internet dating sites for a few years and just basically given up. He asked God that if someone was meant for him that the woman was going to have to come to HIM... He had no desire to chase after anyone /play games anymore... So God took him at his word that he wouldnt date unless God basically put her in front of him... And he did .... I found this out a few months after we started dating and at that point it really had me sold that this was the man for me