Dealing with burnout before the wedding

GJones27

I'm so burnt out from the stress of planning, I'm not excited about the wedding day anymore.  It's in 10 days.  It's so ironic, as I have been so excited for a whole year.  But I'm looking forward to being married.  How do I get this excitement back?  I really wish I could take a break for a week or so from the wedding, but it's impossible given the stuff I still have to do.  Any suggestions?  I posted this on the May board, but I'm getting no responses there. :-)

joyfulbride424

Hey girl well first of all I'm sure everyone who writes on this thread will say a prayer for you and that's bound to help! This happened to me a few months back when I was in the middle of planning all my huge stuff. I just took a break from it all and watched some feel good movies, hung out with FI without talking about finances or wedding stuff, I took walks, I bought a wedding magazine just so I could flip through it even though I didn't need to because I already had my inspiration photos.

Honestly I love watching wedding movies, they make me so excited for my time. If it helps you I would do that. Make sure to get good sleep to and pamper yourself a little, cuddle up in an old pair of sweats and just chill out doing something you love

kellya01

Is there anything you can think of for the next 10 days that you can "cut" -- whether it's somethign in your personal life or in the wedding plans -- something that is absolutely not essential to you making it through the next 10 days? 

I get burnout ALL the time at work -- sometimes I just need to take a break for a few hours, do something TOTALLY different, just to get my mind remembering all of the joy and happiness surrounding me.  Sometimes that's going to the golf course with my dad (driving the golf cart), going bowling and out to eat somewhere new, or even yard work, or a really hot bubble bath. 

I'm sorry you're experiencing this stress especially 10 days before.  There are some things that we just can't change, and part of wedding planning sadly includes a FEW things that HAVE to happen during the last week.  If it doesn't have to happen, maybe you could figure out a way to cut it, or do it in a "pared down" kind of way. 

For example... we're not doing place cards or escort cards.  But we WILL be doing table cards with party names on the cards.  It's a HECK of a lot easier to figure out, and we only have to make ... 25 to 30 table cards, whereas escort cards would be something like 100.  :-)

I'll pray for you!!

FaithCaitlin

I don't have much advice but I will be praying!

I'd try to cut a few things out that you don't really need and try to make time to relax!

sessionswedding

Breathe and relax!  It will all be over soon.  I'm sure that when you wake up on the monring of your wedding day, you will be excited again!

iamjoesgurl

The last few weeks were go, go, go for me and I had so much to do but I committed to do everything before the wedding day and then on our wedding day, just relax and enjoy (even if it meant that things didn't get done).  I would agree that you might be able to make decisions not to do a few things now that time is getting short.  Also, don't be afraid to ask for help.  I've read a lot of posts on TK where people think it is not your family's responsibility or your BP's responsibility to do anything but I think that is bologna.  People in your life want to help you.  So don't be afraid to ask!

When do you head out?

GJones27

Thanks, girls.  I head out for the wedding next week Wednesday.  I don't have that much stuff to do, other than picking up my wedding dress (something no one can help with), makeup and hair trial, calling my vendors the last week to confirm everything, and packing.  But I just feel wedding-out.  I used to loooooove looking at bridal magazines and I have a stack of 14 of them in my room, but I don't even want to look at them anymore.

katanne9

Okay, right now! Cut out whatever you want. Seriously, if you can cut back do it.

You deserve to have fun and relax this week. Just take some time for yourself. Don't put the pressure on yourself to be super wedding-pumped. Just relax and enjoy it.

: )

In 10 days you'll be married. You deserve to enjoy it.

mrandmrsbrist

Cut whatever you can. If you feel safe enough, let those around you know that you're burnt out and see if they can help you out by picking up some of the things that you're going to cut. And I'll be praying for you!

AshNoel8

I agree with everyone else... Remember, it's about the MARRIAGE, not the wedding. Get excited to become his Mrs. and to spend the rest of your life with him! That's what it's all about.