DH's Family (Vent)

iamjoesgurl

DH got a FB message a few weeks ago from his uncle saying that they will be coming to Maryland and he hopes to get together.  DH has been looking forward to seeing his uncle since that time.  Uncle sends another FB message on Tuesday giving more details about where they'll be, that they want to go to D.C. and want to get together with us.  We keep our whole weekend free for him, not knowing when we will get together.

DH has called Uncle about 5 or 6 times today.  His uncle never once answered or called back.  (DH left at least one message.)  Who knows if we'll ever see him.

The whole family (except his parents) are like this.  It gets frustrating.  DH wanted to do a bachelor party type trip with his cousins to see a Pirates game but nobody would respond to him about it so he gave up the idea.  I asked once why he didn't consider having any cousins in the wedding (he is an only child) and he said something about how unreliable they all are so he didn't want to deal with it.

I just needed to vent.  And I should ask for prayer because if we do get together tomorrow, I'm probably not going to want to be friendly.  Thanks for "listening".

Edit - I should have said that I don't much care for myself but it is so hard to see DH's feelings hurt.  When the whole thing went down with the cousins, I cried because he was so hurt by it.

DramaGeek

:-(  I'm so sorry.  There is really no excuse for treating people like that.

SoonToBeGenao

Oh I get so frustrated with people like that. When it's family its definitely the worst. Sorry!

sprtychick10

that stinks! I am sorry his family acts like that. 

GJones27

Ugh, I hate that.  I feel like it's becoming a widespread problem here in the U.S., and there's no social pressure not to do it.  It happens to me soooo many times... at least a handful this year.  Just two weeks ago, DH and I were supposed to have dinner with a friend on a particular evening, and the guy was supposed to call us with a specific time and place.  We heard nothing, despite emails and phone calls.  And two weeks later, this person still hasn't gotten back to us.  I'm starting to feel like people won't learn that's rude unless you tell them.  I mean, they could say, "Hey, something came up and this weekend is no longer good."  But no one does that! 

mrandmrsbrist

I'm sorry, Lisa. There's no excuse for that.

Also, I'm like that with FI. I cry when he gets his feelings hurt or when he's disappointed.

DramaGeek

I hear ya on being upset for him.  I think I actually get more upset than H when his family does something to slight him.  He has a very laidback, pragmatic look on things and it always catches me off guard that he isn't hurt by things that would have broken me.

iamjoesgurl

Thanks everyone for your posts.  He never called at all so I guess we won't be getting together.  I just don't understand why he would have even suggested he'd be coming this way and then just totally ignore our calls.  Anyway, I just wanted to say thanks because it really does feel better just to be able to get it out.  One of the many reasons I appreciate everyone on this board.

drama1308

awww poor DH, I feel bad he didn't get the chance to see his uncle.