Short back story - my mother has always been very immature (and depressed) and since I was 13 I've pretty much been the adult in the relationship. She is extremely jealous that I live close to my in-laws and see them regularly, and never misses an opportunity to remind me of this.
So last week my mother was upset after a phone conversation with me Wednesday night. So early on Thursday morning (before DH and I were awake) she woke us up by texting me childish, insulting things - basically insinuating that I'm a terrible daughter and putting words in my mouth. She also is making up ridiculous things about my in-laws trying to keep me from her. Having spoken to my baby sister, I know that mom is also telling my siblings her escalated side of the story. I was so upset by the entire situation that DH now has to censor any texts I get from her, and I haven't talked to her since.
Here's my dilemma. I know that if I respond to mom at all about her actions, she will just get more upset and nothing will get resolved. I know she has already pushed away my brother and sister, and I feel like I'm losing my relationship with her too. I have considered talking to my dad or e-mailing him. By no means do I want to look like I'm asking my dad to take my side - but I think he needs to be aware of how concerned I am about my mom's mental state. Is that even a good idea, or should I just pretend it didn't happen and see what mom does next time she calls (I will not initiate any phone calls with her right now)? Or another option I haven't thought of?
Thanks in advance, ladies. Sorry about the wall of text.
CN: My mom is damaging our relationship, and talking to her about it won't help. Do I get my dad involved or just ignore it?