I don't know what to do...... Shower question.

StacyJenniges

I am having two wedding showers.  One in the part of Minnesota I live and my fiance's family lives with my fiance's family and friends who live in the Minneapolis/St Paul Area.  I will also have a shower back in my home town about 2 1/2 hours away from the cities. 

My mom and I were talking about dates for the shower in my home town and she told me how this cousin of my dad's said she would help host my wedding shower.  Very nice gesture.  But....... she is not on the guest list at this time.  I come from a large family and my fiance comes from a large family and we have a good number of friends so we are not going to be inviting our parents cousins to the wedding. 

I feel really bad that this person said she would help host a shower for me but I don't plan on inviting her to the wedding.  like wise we would not send her a shower invite but in my small town you have open house showers.  People know that they are not invited but like to wish the new couple well by attending the shower.

I do know that if she does end up helping with the shower I will add them to the guest list it is only two people so not like it's going to break us. 

What would you do in this situation?  What would you have your mom say to this cousin?

AshNoel8

I would just accept the offer and invite them because, like you said, it's only 2 more people. It is really hard to know when to draw the line- how many cousins twice removed, etc, do you invite, ya know? But, that being said, if she is offering to host your bridal shower, then she must feel that she is close with you and your mom and she must really care about you and your marriage. And if you are that special to her that she is willing to help host your bridal shower, it seems like she should be a person who would love to share in your joy and watch you become a Mrs. That's just my opinion, but I definitely see your dilemma because we had a difficult time figuring out where to draw the line too. It's not easy. 

joyfulbride424

I would accept the offer, and I'd cave and invite the extra 2 people to the wedding. We had to do that on a couple of circumstances, it happens.

sprtychick10

I agree with the PP. Accept her generous offer to host a shower and invite her to the wedding.

iamjoesgurl

I would guess that if she is wanting to throw you a shower, she is likely to want to be involved in your life in the future.  What I mean is that people come and go, but it is people like this who remain in our lives.  If I was in this position, I would first talk to my mom to see what she thinks.  Depending on what my mom said, I would probably end up inviting her.