When will it stop hurting?

xstarx05x

Don't mind me venting again (irrelevant to my last post)...

My former best friend of 12 years and I had a falling out after my wedding. I kept trying to get in touch with her and finally she sent an email saying she was upset. Partially wedding related, partially faith related. I don't want to get into the details. I apologized and asked if we could talk about it. Never got a response. Continued to try to get in touch with her, just to see how she was doing, and she'd never respond. 

It's been 7 months since we "broke up" and although I've stopped trying to get a hold of her, it still kills me to think our friendship is over. I can't believe it. I want to think that we'll make up but how can that be possible if she doesn't even want to talk to me?

All I want is the best for her and I care about her so much. I told her that too. So why can't I be in her life again?

Will I ever be healed of this pain?

amongthelilies25

this is really hard.. i am sorry you have to deal with this. 

i have recently lost a really really good friend because of some silly stuff. I had to just give it to God (easier said then done, i know) and just trust Him. 

when you have done all you can do (call her, email, text) and she doesnt respond then the ball is in her court. If she wants to contact you then she will in time. 

Continue to pray for her too. That is the biggest thing you can do! Even if she doesnt know it... it is benefitting her. 

GL

xstarx05x

Sorry to he's you've had to go thru this too yeah that's exactly what DH said: ball's in her court, let go and let God. Definitely easier said than done. I've been reminding myself this but it still hurts We've been praying for her almost every day. Sending up prayers for you & your friend too Do you know Laura Story's song "Blessings"? Really touches me.

amongthelilies25

i have not heard of that story. 

xstarx05x

Have a listen "Blessings" by Laura Story http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TKR4wEURV1Q&feature=youtube_gdata_player

sprtychick10

I too have had a couple close friends lose contact with me. I don't know if they get busy with their own lives that they "run out of time" for me. I have just had to turn it over to God. It isn't easy but it's what we have to do

AshNoel8

Aw I'm so sorry girl. That is really tough. I agree with Monica totally- leave it up to her and pray, pray, pray! It WILL get easier eventually. Just remember that no matter what happens, it's a part of God's plan- we don't always understand it, but we know it's for good. I'll say a prayer for you! 

GJones27

A had a similar situation with my closest friend ever in life.  She had depression, but I didn't know that it was the depression coming through.  She broke off contact with me.  I assumed she wasn't interested in being a friend anymore, even though I called and emailed her multiple times.  It also broke my heart when I heard through the grapevine that she was responding to and hanging out with other friends.  In hindsight, I only learned that her withdrawal was a sign of depression and a cry for help.  Ironically, she blames me 100% for the demise of our friendship.  It's a bit childish and immature, but perhaps depression is at play with your friend.  If you truly want to save this friendship, don't give up.  Maybe just paying her a visit will show that you care.

There is healing with time.  I was pretty brokenhearted I lost my best friend for a couple of years.  I always envisioned her as my BM, but she wasn't there that day.  She never even sent me a congratulations.  Sometimes, others just can't rise above the situation and forgive and make up in a mature manner.  After a while, you realize that maybe they just weren't a good friend for the long term.  I feel for you.