Update: FI didn't get the job

agape1cor813

My fiance, who was laid off about a month ago, didn't get that job he interviewed for. Now I'm the only income earning in an awful rural area I was so looking forward to getting out of.

I don't know what to do ...

FaithCaitlin

I'm so sorry I wish I had advice for you. If it makes you feel better, you aren't alone. FI and I are in a similar situation. It's not easy but don't give up. I just keep encouraging FI to apply, apply, apply! You are in my prayers, girl. Hang in there!

amongthelilies25

oohh...i will be praying for you. 

it is hard right now... for a lot of ppl. 

God will provide the perfect job for your FI. (: keep hope.

SuMmErKuTiE

I'm sorry to hear that. I'll pray for you guys that the right opportunity will come along.

Purple&7

I'm so sorry to hear this. God has a plan! I hope this start to get better soon.

agape1cor813

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[QUOTE]I'm so sorry to hear this. <B />God has a plan!</B> I hope this start to get better soon.
Posted by Purple&7[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I'm beginning to really doubt this...

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sprtychick10

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Update: FI didn't get the job : <strong>I'm beginning to really doubt this...</strong><div>Posted by agape1cor813[/QUOTE]</div><div>
</div><div>Don't doubt this. God has a plan for each and everyone of us. Even in our tough times, we need to turn to Him and know he is there for us.</div><div>
</div><div>Isaiah 26: 4</div><div>Trust in the Lord forever, for the Lord, the Lord himself, is the rock eternal.</div><div>
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GJones27

Don't lose hope.  I was unemployed for ten months when things were really bad.  I got rejected from a number of jobs.  But it ended up working out in the end.  In fact, a better job came along that paid more than the ones that rejected me.  You just have to be persistent, network, focus perhaps on education (I applied for law school during the period), and maintain your sanity through whichever way works best for you both.  I'll pray a job comes along for your FI!

AshNoel8

I agree with sprty. I am so sorry this didn't work out for you and your FI, but God definitely does have a plan and a reason for everything. When he closes one door, another opens! I will pray! 

StacyJenniges

I'm sorry to hear that,  Don't give up.  God does not put trials in our life that we are not able to hadle.  

Something must be better out there.  Don't loose the faith.

agape1cor813

I can't pray anymore. In my experience it never helps. God doesn't listen to me or care about me at all.

I don't think I can get married. Not like this.

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]I can't pray anymore. In my experience it never helps. God doesn't listen to me or care about me at all. I don't think I can get married. Not like this.
Posted by agape1cor813[/QUOTE]

I am really saddened to see this, because it is not true that God does not listen or care about you. He is the one that cares MOST about you than any person on earth ever could. Have faith, even when it is so hard to see the brighter side. It always gets better. I know that all sounds really cliche, but in my experience, it has been true.

I don't know why you think or feel you cannot get married, I suppose that is something that you would need to elaborate more on for me to understand. If you are worried about finances, marriage does not have to hinder finances. I know many people who got married (maybe not with fancy weddings, if that is what you are worried about) and lived through financial hardship just fine. If anything, you need each other most when times are hard. I hope you begin to see things more positively and I will pray for you that you will find your faith and help it to restore you and your outlook for the future.

alyssajael

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[QUOTE]I can't pray anymore. In my experience it never helps. God doesn't listen to me or care about me at all. I don't think I can get married. Not like this.
Posted by agape1cor813[/QUOTE]

I know where you are coming from. But this is not the right attitude to have towards the position God has put you in. My FI and got engaged in Dec 2009. A little over a month into out engagement FI lost his job. He wasn't hired by anyone until October, when a friend helped him get into the gas company working part time and only making 12/hr. I prayed faithfully everyday for FI to find a job after he first lost it. And even though it took nearly 10 months. It was really a time I learned to trust God even when I felt He wasn't listening. He was. A month into working with the gas company the Lord open doors else where for FI. At first as an independent contractor part time with no benefits. To a full-time employee with benefits. Making almost double what he made at the gas company. Don't lose heart. You need to be their for your FI more ever. Try not to let your words discourage him, cause I'm sure already feels discouraged

GJones27

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[QUOTE]I can't pray anymore. In my experience it never helps. God doesn't listen to me or care about me at all. I don't think I can get married. Not like this.
Posted by agape1cor813[/QUOTE]

<div>I know it is hard to see the purpose of suffering.  When I lost my job, it was extremely devastating.  I wondered how it could ever happen to me, as I did everything right in life.  I became extremely stressed and depressed, and I developed gastritis in my stomach.  It is permanently damaged now, and I'll never fully recover.  I also developed gynecological problems from the stress.  In hindsight, I see the purpose of my suffering, and how God was with me.  I saw the movie Up in the Air, and I was so shocked how that company treated layoffs.  I realized that maybe God put me through this experience, so I could learn how to empathize with people losing their jobs.  Maybe I'll have to lay off someone, and I need to know how to do it with compassion (my former bosses didn't do a great job at that).</div><div>
</div><div>Losing my job forced me to think hard about what I needed to do in life.  I had a tough choice making a decision about what to do for grad school, and the layoff forced me to choose law school.  It also gave me the time to study for the LSAT.  </div><div>
</div><div>Lastly, I am glad I lost my job, as my mother was in an accident during my time not working.  I had the time to move across the country and care for her.  I don't know how my family would have been able to do it otherwise.  She was in a wheelchair for two months.</div><div>
</div><div>I write this, because I know that it seems God is not listening.  I know the pain hurts so much now.  But believe me, in hindsight, there will be clarity.  You will see how God was watching out for you.  I understand how hurt you are, as I have gone through it.  Don't do this on your own.  Speak with your priest or someone you are spiritually close with.  Please take care.  If there is anything we can do to help, let us know.  </div>

kellya01

I'll pray for you to find God's hope.  I've been through lots of job changes, times in my life when it just didn't seem like God was listening to my prayers.  After having been through it, I can tell you that God DID listen and DID provide, but it was on HIS timing and not necessarily on MY timing.  It's a tough reality to swallow, but just remember that God has you where you are for a reason, even if that reason doesn't seem very clear or very happy to you now. 

I'll keep praying for you and for your FI as well.

sprtychick10

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[QUOTE]I'll pray for you to find God's hope.  I've been through lots of job changes, times in my life when it just didn't seem like God was listening to my prayers.  After having been through it, <strong>I can tell you that God DID listen and DID provide, but it was on HIS timing and not necessarily on MY timing</strong>.  It's a tough reality to swallow, but just remember that God has you where you are for a reason, even if that reason doesn't seem very clear or very happy to you now.  I'll keep praying for you and for your FI as well.
Posted by kellya01[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I agree with this so much. I think as humans living in the society we live in, we want the instant gratification and have a hard time accepting when we don't get what we want when we want. I will continue to pray for your FI and you and hope that you know God will never turn his back on you and will always be there for you.

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agape1cor813

I'm sorry, but how else am I supposed to react? I barely make enough money to support myself, let alone anyone else or the things that married people need. I also live in a severely depressed area economically where there is no opportunity for him. And there is no opportunity for me elsewhere.

So yeah, I think I'm justified in giving up hope.

joyfulbride424

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[QUOTE]I'm sorry, but how else am I supposed to react? I barely make enough money to support myself, let alone anyone else or the things that married people need. I also live in a severely depressed area economically where there is no opportunity for him. And there is no opportunity for me elsewhere. <strong>So yeah, I think I'm justified in giving up hope.</strong>
Posted by agape1cor813[/QUOTE]

I am sorry you are struggling with this. For what its worth I think a load of people on the boards and in the world are struggling right now given the economic circumstances.

But see I don't think you have given up hope, because if you had I don't think you would've come here to tell us, because you see now that you have - you should know that at least half the women here who have posted care about your situation and have already prayed for you. We are telling you as your Christian sisters do NOT give up hope for the future, because there is one.

We have all been through hard times in one way or another. Some of us struggle financially and some of us struggle emotionally, physically, mentally, we all carry burdens in this world and it is important to lift each other up in prayer. I encourage you to pray and tell God just how angry you are, and ask him HOW to pray. Ask him for patience, ask him for peace, ask him for hope, ask him to LIGHT your path, because God is faithful, he always has been and he always will be. I am praying for you agape1, and I am praying you do not give up hope.