Wedding Burnout

GJones27

Any advice on how to deal with wedding burnout?  I took yesterday off from doing any wedding chores, but I'm so sick of planning everything and my wedding is next month.  I just want stuff to be over with.  Today, I had to go for my last wedding dress fitting, and when they told me to come pick it up in a few weeks, I felt dread that I still have stuff to do but I don't want to do all this planning anymore.  I just want to be married.  Is anyone else going through this?

joyfulbride424

I think everyone's been through this at one point or another or in it right now. Try to schedule "me" time (err.. "you" time every couple of days (or everyday if you need it). I was on wedding burnout with wedding plans, work.. school.. etc. I started turning off my phone and doing yoga for 45 a day every couple of days or so. That's my me time. No wedding, no phone, no e-mail, just me.

AshNoel8

I like the "me time" idea. I haven't had wedding planning burnout yet, but I still have 89 days to go. Try to look at it as something you will only do once so try to enjoy every moment of it- even the tedious, boring, stressful parts. Very soon, it will be over and you will be married. Focus on that, pray, take it all in.. and yes, schedule "me time" to do something you love. 

squeakyduck

Totally there. I told my mom that she could be in charge of decorating the church. I just couldn't care about anything new. And I'm totally killing her new dress buzz because I honestly just don't care what she wears. I was having meltdowns and crying over the stupid guest list last month. I am so never ever going to get married again. 

sessionswedding

i'm fairly burnt out right now, but I still have 7.5 months to go!  I have the luxury of taking time off from wedding planning and coming back to it with fresh eyes later, but since you are so close, I agree with PPs about getting in some "me" time everyday.

mrandmrsbrist

I've been burnt out for a while...and I'm expecting it to get worse. I'm with you! I just want to be married.

I don't know about you, but I have people in my life pushing me to do this or that. And I have to hold my ground and not let them talk me into discussing something when I don't have the patience or even interest for it.

GJones27

Mrandmrsbrist, I have the same problem.  I am tired of arguing with people who disagree or push me to do certain things.  It's almost totally from my mom, and I think she forgets that it's my wedding as opposed to hers.  

Thanks girls for listening and your thoughts.

sessionswedding

I think what makes me get upset or burnt out is when I get pushed around.  I think I've put my foot down enough times that FMIL will stop trying to change things, but there are still 7 months left!  Lol.

amongthelilies25

i have had some bridal meltdowns from being burnt out. 

For me its a little different because i WANT to plan....but no one else is there with me. i am alone in it. I have a wedding planner who has taken away a lot of my stress. (: 

But my FI isnt here so a lot of the stuff has to be on hold until he is home (although i have met with everyone cuz i couldnt wait....i will have to go back and meet with everyone again) but my FMIL and FSIL have no real interest in doing anything right now. We were supposed to go over the guest list yesterday.....but we didnt. it gets stressful and so i get frustrated... if i had someone else who was excited to be doing the planning..it would be better, i think. 

BrideToBeBecauseHeLovesMe

What PP's said. 

I'd say take a break, then split up what needs to get done, and mix it with stuff you WANT to get done.  That helps me. 

ReebokJ

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[QUOTE]Mrandmrsbrist, I have the same problem.  I am tired of arguing with people who disagree or push me to do certain things.  It's almost totally from my mom, and I think she forgets that it's my wedding as opposed to hers.   Thanks girls for listening and your thoughts.
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<div>LIKE. I am mostly planning by myself, though I've gotten more assistance recently-- roommate is going to take charge of decorating, FFIL and FSMIL took the rehearsal dinner. I, duly listening to mother, had been scurrying around trying to find a restaurant to host it, but the in-laws are going to have it at the church. So much relief!! Not only is it taking a weight off my shoulders, but I'm loving all the ideas they're coming up with. Mother still pushed for a restaurant/hotel, even suggested I offer the funds for it so that it would happen that way. Oh, family and preconceived notions. That can get pretty stressful, but I also get burnt out sometimes when I have too much to do and too little time for weeks on end. The trick is to NOT THINK ABOUT IT when you're not doing anything about it. Write down exactly when you're going to do it, then forget about it. If I had done otherwise, I would no longer be sane.</div>