Prayers needed :(

dordtgrl4

Usually I'm a very private person but I really need to get this off my chest. It's been wearing me down for a long time now.

Tonight I had to confront one of my family members who is blatantly living in sin. He is a huge leader in the Church and community and I told said member that I was concerned. Well, they blew up in my face and hung up the phone but not after they said that they were doing nothing wrong and that I was not welcome in the house anymore.

This family member is my father, a Pastor. After I told him that living with another woman was wrong while he is still married to my mother. They are in the process of a divorce and the straw broke tonight when he told me that he was proposing (after only 4 months of knowing this lady) and I told him I was not comfortable with that. I have no idea what to do except for pray. I don't mean to bring anyone down in my own sorrows. I merely just needed to get this out.

Thank you if you took the time to read this. I do appreciate you.

Ccsvball05

I will truely pray for you. I cannot say I know how you feel, but God can handle this situation. I am sorry you have to go through this. I will be praying for you and  your family

kellya01

You may want to talk with Deacons or Elders at your church.  At my church, usually the same gender will confront the person living in sin, as it seems to come off a little better, and more of a "this is how the church feels about your blatant living in sin and you need to realize what you're doing is wrong" (etc).  In my church in this case, someone would probably bring the matter before a Deacon and they would decide how the group of men at the church would handle the confrontation about choosing to live in sin like that.  Don't know if that is anything you'd feel comfortable doing, as you probably don't want to jeopardize your father's job as a pastor at the church, but from a Christian standpoint, the church has a right to confront members repeatedly choosing to live in sin.  

I'll pray for you to stay strong through all of this.  It can't be easy.  God will carry you through it!! 

iamjoesgurl

I'm so sorry that you had to go through that.  My dad was a pastor and my heart would have been so broken if he had left my mother and moved in with/married another woman.  I guess it's not so much because of him being a pastor (any vocation that my dad was - if I had gone through this it would have been horrible).  But pastors are held to a higher standard and not only do I look up to my dad because he is my dad, but also because he is a spiritual leader.  You were very brave to confront him and by the sound of his reaction, he probably knows he is wrong. 

I will add you and your family to my prayer list.  This can't be easy for your mom or your siblings (if you have any) either.

FutureMrsBarron2011

Im so sorry your having to go through this. Im in a similar situation right now. My family has traveled and ministered at different churchs since I was four and all of this has come to a stop. My dad had an inappropriate relationship with a lady from his past and now my family is torn apart while we pray for restoration. (Having to deal with all of this while planning my future marriage is also stressful) Its not the same but I sort of understand. Im praying healing and strength for you and your family!!

AshNoel8

I will say a prayer. 

dordtgrl4

Thank you everyone for the prayers. These past few days have been a bit easier. I prayed about it and I think I'm going to go to the church. I would want someone to hold me accountable and I think it's only right if I show that I really do care about my dad. No one wants to see their father go down this path. So thanks again. It's very encouraging to be a part of this board.

kellya01

dordtgrl, you've got the same BM dresses I do!  DB 83312!  My BM's are wearing kelly green.  Love love love that dress!  I am hoping to go and get one for myself as well.

Also wanted to post that I'm remembering you in my prayer tonight as you try to muddle through this situation.  The church will know that you mean well, and you have to do what is best for your father, even if it seems like it hurts now.  God has a way of convicting people in their hearts, and when we become cold to that conviction and act like what we're doing is right, well, we need someone outside of ourselves to show us the light.  

Much love to you in all of this.  Prayers too! :-)