WR: Middle name change

LeahVB2011

I saw a similar post on June 2011 board but my curiousity is getting the best of me tonight haha.

I know many of the women on here have either changed their last name to DH's or plan on changing it to Fi's once married. But what are you going to do with your middle name?

It's an on going debate for me if I will replace my middle name with my maiden name or keep my middle name. Parents want the former, Fi wants the latter and I'm not sure. So did you do or do you plan to do?

kellya01

It's tradition where I am to drop the given middle name unless the person goes by that name.  So for me, it will be Kelly middle maiden  TO ... Kelly maiden HisLast.  I've also heard of some people just adding on... so it would be first middle maiden hislast.  I'd rather keep things in my family tradition and if I want to "save" my middle name, I'll give it to a potential future child... that's how we keep names in the family!! :-) 

iamjoesgurl

I share my middle name with my grandmother (her middle name) and my deceased aunt (her first name) so I think my mom would have been heartbroken if I hadn't kept it. 

I'll always be known by my maiden name (that's what happens when you marry at age 38) so I didn't really need to keep it anyway.

azdancer8

I hated my maiden name for most of my life, and love my middle name. I ended up with First Middle HisLast. I LOVE my new name!  

No one in my family cares that I dropped my maiden name. Even my brother may change his if he ever gets married.

My mother I think is legally First Maiden HisLast. So my family has done it both ways.

BrideToBeBecauseHeLovesMe

I go by my middle name (Beth - I can't see Mary at all which is my first) and if I kept my last name as my middle good gravy that would be a lot of letters:

First: 4 letters
Middle: 4 letters
Last: 8 letters

FI's last:  12 letters

Can you imagine 4 4 8-12 (totaling 20 for my last name) or 4 8 12?  I can't lol.  Way too loooooooooooong.  :P

sessionswedding

I am considering just dropping my maiden name altogether.  I think my mom might be a bit upset at first, but I'm sure she'll get over it (if she ever even hears about it, lol).  I like my middle name and I like FI's last name, but I don't really like (or have any sentimental attachment to) my last name.  I will also have only been in the professional world for a little over a year when I get married, so it's not like I have a lot of professional associations with my maiden name.  So I think I'm going to become FirstName MiddleName HisLastName.

GJones27

I don't have a middle name, so my last name will become my middle name and I picked FI's last name to become my own last name (so I checked keeping all of my names).  I'm going to write out all of my names so people still recognize me.  It will also be a little weird for strangers, because my last name will become Suzuki and I'm a blond Caucasian.  My own last name (as shown in my screen name) is Jones.  

DramaGeek

Every other woman in my family is legally First Middle Married, though we put both maiden and married on my grandma's urn because we're rather proud of that part of the family tree (Barlow, of Barlow trail fame).  I originally was First Middle Maiden Married, with Maiden Married being my last name.  I hated it so I went back to just First Middle Maiden.  I think everyone who knows me well is surprised I didn't just do that from the beginning.

ReebokJ

I'm having the exact same problem!!! I feel particularly attached to my middle name (so lovely!), but I'm also proud to be a [Maiden name], and the whole rest of my family has done First Maiden Last... I'm sorely tempted to keep both, but that would be a bit unwieldy.

LeahVB2011

Fi would rather me keep my maiden name  and drop my middle name than have it all together. My last name is already 6 letters and his is 11 letters plus it's two words (hence VB). I love both and I know wher people stand but I just don't know

joyfulbride424

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[QUOTE]I go by my middle name (Beth - I can't see Mary at all which is my first) and if I kept my last name as my middle good gravy that would be a lot of letters: First: 4 letters Middle: 4 letters Last: 8 letters FI's last:  12 letters Can you imagine 4 4  8 - 12 (totaling 20 for my last name) or 4  8 12 ?  I can't lol.  Way too loooooooooooong.  :P
Posted by BrideToBeBecauseHeLovesMe[/QUOTE]

Haha! B2B this made me laugh. My last name is 8 letters currently, and FIs last name is 7 letters. If I kept everything, I would be Joy Ann 12345678-1234567 WHOA!

So even without my middle name it'd be ridiculously long. I'm not 100% sure what I want to do yet because I love my maiden name, but we'll figure it out :)

[Deleted User]

we agreed that I would drop my maiden name in exchange for using it as a first or middle name for one of our children.  my new last name will be hispanic, but my first name obviously isn't so I don't foresee any issues with that.

my name will be First Middle HisLastName.  our first boy will be FI'sFirstName MyMaidenName LastName.  easy enough!  I am a little sad about losing my name, but it's not that big of a deal to me.

kitkat610

I'm keeping my middle name because I'm named after my great, grandmother(it was her last name) and I want to keep it.I actually never really liked my last name, plus, I love the tradition.
Also, I love my FI's last name.  I am happy to be part of his family and their history as well as my own.

amongthelilies25

I will be keeping my middle name and taking FI's last name as my own. (: i am VERY VERY excited about it too. (: i always knew i would just take my husband's last name. 

Not that i am particularly fond of my middle name or anything but my FI calls me Monica Middlename and i call him Martin Middlename all the time. i couldnt imagine losing my middle name. in fact in my email.....i dont even have my maiden last name on it...lol...i have my middle name! 

it was funny when i was meeting with all my vendors because they kept writing Monica Middlename...and i had to correct them and be like "uh..actually that isnt my last name....its blablabla." lol

SuMmErKuTiE

My mom made her maiden name her middle name when she married my dad, but I kept my middle name and dropped my maiden name completely because my middle name was my Nana's name and I want to always keep her name. So I am Katharyn Ann His Last Name.

kalizoomba

I don't want to take FI's name, because its a very common last name. Mine is very unusual and I love it. My initials are TLC.   HOWEVER, it's very important to FI that we have the same last name, and he loves his name. He's very into genealogy and can trace his family tree way back to several famous people including a civil war general.

I want to keep my last name, but like PP, it's very long and if I change to TCN, (to keep my maiden name) it would be very long. TLC-N would be even longer. but my middle name is only 3 letters. It's the same middle name as my mom, and a variation of my grandma's) I'm probably just going to stick with TLN. As much as I hate it. FI's making all kinds of sacrifices for me, I might as well do this one tiny thing for him. It doesn't really mean that much to me, but its very important to him.

iamjoesgurl

One of my cousins didn't want to lose her last name so she and her husband both changed their last name to be "HislastnameHerlastname".  His last name was 11 and hers was 6 so now their poor children have a 17 letter last name to learn how to spell.

Example (not their real names):
His last name = Dacvabbalen
Her last name = Smythe
Their new last name = DacvabbalenSmythe

mrandmrsbrist

My choice has nothing to do with tradition and everything to do with the fact that I don't want to be one in a million anymore.

I have an extremely common first, middle, last name. I go to a large state school, but there are EIGHT girls here with my EXACT name. And then there's like 27 others with different spellings of either the first, middle, or last name.

When I take FI's last name, I'll be one of two in the world. Yeah, it's selfish, but I'm so over getting mixed up with other people.

sessionswedding

I should also add, as far as carrying on the family name goes, that I have two younger brothers and 3 male cousins with my Maiden Name.  I'm pretty sure at least 1 of the 5 of them will eventually have kids, lol.

kitkat610

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[QUOTE]. When I take FI's last name, I'll be one of two in the world. Yeah, it's selfish, but I'm so over getting mixed up with other people.
Posted by mrandmrsbrist[/QUOTE]
I love this! I am the exact same way! After the name change, I will be the only one as far as I know :)

marinabreeze

I'm keeping my middle names and dropping the maiden name.  My middle names mean a lot to me.  My first middle was my paternal grandmother's name, and my second middle was given to me by my older sister when I was born, and it's my link to the maternal side of my family (there is a tradition where all my bio mom's kids have middle names that begin with the same letter). 

However, I have no connection to my last name.  It's ridiculously common, and it was my dad's stepfather's last name (and they were not close at all). 

I'm also in a similar boat to mrsbrist...my first name is also extremely common, and so there are like a million people out there with my first and last name - I might as well have been named Jane Doe.  Even in my academic discipline (and it's not a huge field), there is someone else published with my first and last.  And within the past year, I had to have one of the credit reporting agencies disentagle my credit report from someone else's who had the same first, middle initial, and last name (who had horrible credit!). 

So I am more than happy to keep my own middle names and take my FI's last name.  It's not quite as common as my maiden name.  So I will be First FirstMiddle SecondMiddle HisLast.