My first shower is next weekend and I'm a little bit nervous about comments that other people may say to others. I wasn't until I went to my cousin's shower this past weekend. My mom left her shower in tears because of what another lady said to her about the gift she brought.
My cousin registered for a knife block set that my mom got for her. It was a really nice $100 Cuisinart 16 pc. set and, what's more, my mom had the best of intentions in buying this gift. She wanted to get something that my cousin would like and that would be useful in her new home.
Well, when the bride opened the gift my mom had gotten her, this lady comes from the back of the room, in front of the entire shower, and asks "WHO got you that?" My cousin was obviously happy with the gift and was smiling and told her that my mom had given it to her. The lady told Whitney that you're not supposed to give anyone anything sharp unless you put a penny with it. Then the lady turns around and walks by my mom and tells her "You DON'T DO that." My mom and me were the only ones from that side of the family there so we only knew the bride and the mother of the bride. And this lady makes a heart-felt gift seem like an attempt to "cut the couples's love." I couldn't believe, first of all, that this lady believed in a stupid superstition like that and, second of all, believed in it enough to embarass my mother in front of a room full of people that she didn't know. My mother didn't do anything wrong yet she left feeling like an idiot.
So...the point of this post is to get a little advice on how to avoid this kind of thing at my shower. I understand that you can't control others tongues, but there are things that can be done to avoid this type of situation. I felt that Saturday could have been avoided a bit by a few changes. The bride didn't really say anything while she was opening gifts. She was smiling and everything, but I've always been to showers where the bride calls out who got the gift, what it is for people who can't see it, and exclaims over how much she likes it and how beautiful it is. I plan to do all of these things. I feel that if these things had been done, it might have kept that lady from making my mother a public spectacle. However, as I said before, you can't control people so she might have said something anyway. So I feel that with all of that, if she had said something anyway (with the bride having registered for the gift and the bride publicly showing her appreciation and thanks), then the bride should say that she does not believe in superstitions and is very appreciative of the gift. What do you guys think? Do you have any other suggestions? And for the record, it will not be the same people at both showers. However, I want to do everything within my power to make sure that no one leaves in tears because of what someone else says to them. And if someone does say something like that, it will be addressed in a graceful manner that lets them know that I do not believe in superstitions but in a God who brought us together.