Monday QOTD

Ash61612

With all the baby talk, how many kids, if you and DH.FI do, do you see yourself having? How many? When do you see you to start your family?

Ash61612

We would like 2 kids. However, DH is a twin and we could get the 2 kids "done" in one shot. I know we want to be married a couple years and enjoy being husband and wife a couple years before we add a kid to the mix. Although, we did just add a puppy to the family after only being married a month. 

GJones27

I think we're thinking of having our first kid around 32.  I need to finish law school and get settled in a job first, and I'm 27.  I would like 2 kids, but my husband wants 3.  He is hoping our second child ends up being twins so he gets his 3 kids!  I promised him we could have 3 if we somehow ended up rich and me not having to work much.

jenningz

We both want 2... and I want to be pregnant at 25.

midgetthemighty

We want 2-3 kids and plan on TTC in about two years.

SugarFoote

2 is the max I will have (unless I have some strange pregnancy and have multiples). FI is getting himself fixed or finding himself his own bedroom is he can't control himself. I would be satisfied with 0-1 but our discussion somehow left us with 2...

FI wants a honeymoon baby but unless God just wants to bless us with a honeymoon baby, that isn't going to happen and I am going to try prevent that the best I can. I would like for us to be married at least a year before we start trying.

BMcLeodTeam

We've agreed anywhere from 2-4 will be ideal, however it depends partially on the adoption process and how long that takes If it takes a long time, it'll likely only be the 2 lol

yodacub

I've been off TK for a bit, new job and new marriage take up a lot of time

Currently we are thinking 2-3 kids, depending on timing and job situations.  If it were up to me, we would start trying after we've been married for 1.5 years (we've been married 3 months).  H says he wants to start trying at our 1 year anniversary, but honestly, he would be thrilled if my BC didn't work.  Every time something is vauguely wrong with me (ie when I had indigestion from eating meatballs and mini hot dogs for dinner, bad idea...), his eyes light up and he says "baby?" It makes me laugh.

joe&cassie

I want to wait at least a year into our marriage.  However, we will never be truly childless because he has a daughter who is about to turn 6 and it's the standard custody agreement.  She's part of the reason I want kids so bad.  I miss her terribly when she is gone and when she is here I feel bad that she doesn't have any siblings to play with.  I want 3 and my FI always says... we will start with one.  lol

AshNoel8

I'd like 4, H wants 2... So we'll see. Everytime I talk about it, he says, "we don't even have one yet." Haha.

orangehills

We want 2 kids. By the time we get married I'll almost be 29, and FI will be 32. So I want to start trying in the later part of our first year of marriage. I'm ready for babies! I think... lol

jenningz

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[QUOTE]We've agreed anywhere from 2-4 will be ideal, however it depends partially on the adoption process and how long that takes :) If it takes a long time, it'll likely only be the 2 lol
Posted by BMcLeodTeam[/QUOTE]

Hooray for adoption. I'm adopted, :)

azdancer8

We will gladly take however many God gives us. Ideally, I think we want somewhere between 2-4. We hope to start TTC in the next year or two.

ochemjenn

Zero.  DH will get *fixed*.  If we decide 10-15 years from now that we want kids, we'd adopt. 

SuMmErKuTiE

We used to think 3, but now we're thinking maybe just 2. We'll see how we feel about it later on after starting our family and how I feel during pregnancy. If I have rough pregnancies, then we'll keep it at 2.

We used to think we'd start TTC after our 1 year anniversary, then we wanted to make sure we were homeowners. Now, we've been homeowners for over a year, and just had our 2nd anniversary and still have no plans of TTC just yet. We're really enjoying being just us still and taking vacations, etc..

naomikb

He wants 2, I want 3.  We will probably have 2.  We will start TTC in a few years once I finish school, get a job, get eligible for mat leave.

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]2 is the max I will have (unless I have some strange pregnancy and have multiples). FI is getting himself fixed or finding himself his own bedroom is he can't control himself. I would be satisfied with 0-1 but our discussion somehow left us with 2... FI wants a honeymoon baby but unless God just wants to bless us with a honeymoon baby, that isn't going to happen and I am going to try prevent that the best I can. I would like for us to be married at least a year before we start trying.
Posted by SugarFoote[/QUOTE]

If you are really against having a baby right now/when you have your HM, why not just make sure you don't with BC or a condom? Or NFP if that is your style. If you really don't want 2 kids, I'd talk to your FI more about that. It worries me when people just oblige their SO if they still feel against it, especially with kids. I could be reading your post the wrong way, but that is just how it came off to me.


That said, I want 3-4 kids. Probably within a year and a half we will start really TTC. I hope to go off of BC next summer.

drama1308

We would like 3-5 kids.. Really, whatever God gives us. Unless we get a surprise, we get to start trying ( or get off the pill) around my 24 birthday... So about 1.5 years. I want kids now, but realistically we are not ready. We have some home improvements to do before I feel comfortable having kids (move laundry from the basement, and redo the upstairs bathroom because I cannot imagine trying to bathe a child in the bathtub already up there)

mrandmrsbrist

When are we starting our family? Well I think that's obvious

We want at least two. We'll go from there after that. I wouldn't mind have a large family and I wouldn't mind stopping with two. We'll see how we feel after number 2...whenever that is.

rajahmd

This is a tricky question for me.  I have two genetic disorders, each that have a 50% chance of being passed down.  So I'm never quite sure what I will end up doing.  I would like to have biological offspring, but no sooner than after 2 years of marriage.  And no more than 2 biological children- don't want to tempt fate too many times.  If we decided against biological children, we definitely want to adopt, as many as we can afford but probably at least 2.  

Ash61612

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Monday QOTD : <strong>If you are really against having a baby right now/when you have your HM, why not just make sure you don't with BC or a condom? Or NFP if that is your style.</strong> If you really don't want 2 kids, I'd talk to your FI more about that. It worries me when people just oblige their SO if they still feel against it, especially with kids. I could be reading your post the wrong way, but that is just how it came off to me. That said, I want 3-4 kids. Probably within a year and a half we will start really TTC. I hope to go off of BC next summer.
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randlettandfraleigh

We want at least three... I'm one of three and so was H for most of his childhood until his family adopted a 9-year-old girl from Russia when he was in high school. We both love the dynamic of that many and I loved being an only girl, so i'd like to do boy-girl-boy like with me and my brothers A little specific--- but really God will bless us however he wishes and we will be so happy

Also, we will not start trying for at least another 4 years, maybe more. We are both still young and getting established and I would like to be able to take some time off while my kids are little, so getting to a place financially to do that means taking some time to save up some more. 

GunzNRoses213

I have a 9 year old... I'm gonna be in school ... We will be waiting at least 4 more years... Oye much to my dismay...

I'd like 2 more... Id just like a girl ...

RyansBelovedBride

We talk about 4, but it may end up being more. Both biological and adopted, ideally.

I have polycystic ovarian syndrom, which means it will likely be hard for me to get pregnant. It is the leading cause of infertility in women. So we don't plan on using birth control at all to start with. We will neither worry about having kids nor preventing conception for the first year of marriage.

If we haven't gotten pregnant by our first anniversary, then we'll "try". Probably at first that will just be ovulation testing, and with the PCOS maybe might mean seeing a doctor about fertility.

If we haven't gotten pregnant at the end of the second year, I want to start the  adoption process. Ryan is more reluctatant and wants to try biological for three years. But by then we'll be 28, with my next birthday a few months away actually, and I'd like to be a mom by 30, one way or the other. Ryan is fine with adopting, but had his heart set on the first child, perhaps first couple of children being biological. He would be okay if we didn't adopt. I don't care what order we add them, though I think it would be nice if  it was bio kids first, because I figure we'd be learning to paren t with a newborn and not a toddle r or preschooler which is likely in adoption.

The way Ryan talks, he'd like to have four biologically, which is why I say w e will probably have more than four, since I have my hear t set on adoption. Also, I could see when our kids are older adopting older kids, maybe a sibling group. If I was adopting older than a preschooler I'd want to be older myself, more experienced at parenting, and have the children I already have be older than the newly adopted kids.

So we may end up having a large family, though I don't see us being HUGE. But God already knows= who my children will be, how they will join our family, and all this is really just dreaming.

fpaemp2011

We don't have a set number. DH said he didn't want more than 4, but he's recently said that he just wants to have as many as God gives us, which I am more than fine with. I can see us having 6 to 8 maybe, both biological and through adoption.

agape1cor813

DH and I are not even going to talk about it seriously until we are close to our third anniversary. We have a car and his student loans we would like to have mostly paid off just so that will won't be saddled by debt and have a bit more freedom for our family. Thankfully, that debt load is moderately small compared to a lot of 20-something graduates.

I see us having 2 or 3 kids, maybe. I am going to be 26 in a little less than 2 weeks, and ideally having our first around the 29 range seems good to me.