MOH needs advice...

agape1cor813

OK, so my best friend just got engaged and asked me to be MOH, and I'm super confused as to what my duties actually are. The only wedding I've ever been a part of was my own (as the bride, of course).

I'm certainly happy to have this role, but I'm feeling a little overwhelmed about what exactly is expected of me.

Can anyone who has been in a wedding or been a MOH give me any advice?

RebeccaJac

Most of the duties are planning a bridal shower, personal shower and bachelorette (most people combine the last two) and helping the bride with whatever she needs. Those are the biggest things. 

Just ask her what she has in mind for responsibilities. You don't want to over-do it or not do something she was excited about. 

azdancer8

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[QUOTE]Most of the duties are planning a bridal shower, personal shower and bachelorette (most people combine the last two) and helping the bride with whatever she needs. Those are the biggest things.  Just ask her what she has in mind for responsibilities. You don't want to over-do it or not do something she was excited about. 
Posted by RebeccaJac[/QUOTE]

Technically speaking, the only thing you *have* to do is stand by her on the wedding day. But yes, Rebecca is right, the rest of her list is what is typically considered the "duties" of a MOH. Don't feel obligated to do anything that is out of your comfort zone or price range, though. Mostly try to help your friend have as stress-free a day as possible.

My MOH came with me to pick up my wedding dress, helped plan an engagement party/shower for me, and was my listening ear any time I was stressed out (which wasn't too much).

When I was her MOH, I helped her choose dresses, address invitations, and did a lot of the reception food prep and decorating.

Unfortunately being several states apart made it more challenging for each of us to be the other's MOH, but the friendship and support is what counts the most.

Ash61612

I agree with both the above PP. Do what you feel comfortable doing and can afford to do.