whining, even though its really no big deal :/

joyfulbride424

So I know its a privilege and not everybody gets one, but I just found out that my girls aren't throwing me a bachelorette party of any kind. I have no idea if its money, or time, or travel.. notta clue. My MOH (who had the bad breakup last week) told me today kind of curtly, "We aren't having a party for you. Sorry." I totally get that all those things happen but I guess I am just a little jealous because a lot of other ladies that I know who are getting married have been posting photos of their bachelorette parties I guess I'm just a bit disappointed because I was hoping to have a little party with my girls. Thanks for letting me vent, I know not everybody gets to have a bachelorette party or even a shower for that matter, I'm just a little bummed.

aggiebug

I can't blame you for being bummed.  It is a special time and you want to share it with the girls you are closest too.  You have a great outlook on it though, keep positive and you never know what will happen.

Maybe you could organize a mani/pedi day? or just lunch with the ladies?  Not a bach party, but a time with the girls just to enjoy their friendship? Its not the same, but I think it would still be fun.

joyfulbride424

Thanks aggiebug! I am trying to stay positive because I know the real celebration is my wedding, not my bachelorette party. I thought for sure they would throw something for me - the day of my shower they all said "we totally have to plan something!" but they say stuff like that a lot and then flake out I shouldn't have gotten my hopes up to high but I guess I did. I may just try to get a mani/pedi or something with one of my BP members that I live close to.

StacyJenniges

I'm sorry, you do have every right to be bumbed about it.  But you do seem understanding.   I would be feeling the same way, I would probably cry in my room alone so that my friends didn't see how hurt I was.

Another idea to add to angiebugg's ideas is what if you organized a sleepover/movie night at your place.    It's cheap and you can have fun with your gals.  

kellya01

I was just about to suggest a sleepover/movie night kind of thing.  I know it's not always possible to get all the girls there you'd like to have, but at least some of your local friends could come, maybe a bridesmaid or two as well.  Or maybe a bowling night!  We also have done karaoke nights at the local restaurants and that's a lot of fun too. 

Sorry you won't have a bachelorette party thrown for you, I can imagine the disappointment after you were given the impression that they wanted to plan one.  :-/  Keep your chin up and don't let it get to you.  Make your own night and have some fun, maybe just invite a few local friends to go out somewhere that you enjoy!! :-)

joyfulbride424

Thanks Kelly!! I'm going to try and figure something out, but if I can't I am not going to let it get to me

amongthelilies25

i chose not to have a bachelorette party. We are doing just the bridal shower (my sister MOH is throwing it). BUT i am organizing a bridal breakfast the morning of. (: 

we will just get together and have breakfast for my BMs and other close friends. 

its still a fun alternative. (: 

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my BMs aren't hosting a shower or a bachorlette party for me either.  no reason, they just didn't feel like it.  I'm a little upset by it, but at this point (2 months out) I'm just getting over it and moving on with everything else. 

I hope you can plan some kind of celebration anyways. 

GJones27

I'd be upset by this.  I mean, putting money aside, it's not thaaaat expensive just to go out for drinks at someplace not very expensive.  Maybe they're going to throw you a surprise bachelorette party?  I hope that's the case.  If all us Christian Knotties lived in the same city, we'd throw you one.

iamjoesgurl

Believe it or not, I've been in 7 weddings as an adult and never been to a bachelorette party.  It has never even come up.  I guess that's why I didn't think twice about not having one myself.  

I agree that the sleepover party or a girls night in would be fun.

joyfulbride424

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[QUOTE]I'd be upset by this.  I mean, putting money aside, it's not thaaaat expensive just to go out for drinks at someplace not very expensive.  Maybe they're going to throw you a surprise bachelorette party?  I hope that's the case.  <strong>If all us Christian Knotties lived in the same city, we'd throw you one.</strong>
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I love that!!!!! :)

AshNoel8

Aww girl, I'm so sorry. I would feel the same way. It is kind of strange that your MOH said that to you so bluntly. Try not to let it bother you, although I know it's hard. I agree with PP's about trying to organize something little. For mine, we are just going out to dinner and then back to my BM's house for a sleepover. You could always organize something like  this yourself. You could even just have a girls day with your mom! And the cats! haha. 

If it makes you feel any better, Ry's GM's aren't planning one for him either. I am kind of trying to plan for them to go to a baseball game or something.

Also, you KNOW if I lived near you, I would already have your bach party planned! If you decide to take a spontaneous roadtrip here in the next couple weeks, I promise I'll take you somewhere fun to celebrate your marriage!